My husband and I have been together for five years. He works full time, and I’m a stay at home mom to our four year old. He’s a wonderful guy. Hard-working, always been loyal, caring… but the problem is I feel like he doesn’t want to spend time with me anymore. He gets home from work and either immediately wants to watch tv or go straight to bed. I’m home alone all day with our toddler and no other adult interaction whatsoever. It’s extreme;y lonely. I wait for him to get home so I can have a conversation with someone, but I understand how he feels after being at work all day. We used to talk all the time. I’ve tried explaining to him that I just need some adult interaction, and it’s hard being alone with a toddler 24/7 with no one around to help and no friends. I need to get across to him that I miss our conversations and hanging out together. I know he’s tired, but we still used to make time. Now, I ask him how his day went and got no answer except, “fine.” I feel disconnected from him. I’m just not sure what to do anymore except give him his space.
Stick the kid with grandma and take a couples trip.
He’s emotionally disconnected from the relationship.
Dont beg. Get busy and let him want time with u.
First you do need to get some other mommy friends, you can’t expect your husband to be your only friend. He’s not disconnected from the relationship he’s tired or stressed or both from being the provider, cut him some slack. Try planning things for his days off for all of you, or if you have babysitter for just the two of you. Instead of asking how work went as more specific questions…“anything funny/ interesting happen at work today” also try starting a conversation yourself (non work, non child, non house related) something you saw on the news, or read, or something coming up or going on with family. Communication is important but both parties need to contribute, and he may just not be in the mental state of mind after working to start and lead the conversation. Also trying to talk about things you know interest him and get him passionate helps.
It’s normal. I was home 6 years raising a baby. Nothing of my own. It’s a rough life. I suffered severe depression.
It’s time to get a sitter. Even for a few hours during the day on his day off and do something.
5 years together with a kid? Maybe you just need to both chill out a bit and spend time together, over analysing every detail is only gonna make you feel horrid,
Maybe hes suffering from mild depression? Just try be honest and upfront with eachother without blame or judgement
Grab a sitter, you need a date. Being a SAHM is a lonely gig. (I did it for 10 years!) Hes likely tired, and needs to unwind after a long day of work.
Gurl, it’s right in front of you. He has someone else in his life. A person can be busy, one day, one week not forever Amen! There are other men who work too but they find time for their families. You think he doesn’t know that he’s not spending time with you? Get a life dear. Don’t keep your eyes wide shut.
Get a job and leave the baby the8 nursery or get a baby sitter. Some of these husband just don’t give the stay home wives and mothers the love and respect they should get.
Thats where u went wrong stay home it have baby sitters lookin for work dear get a job help yourself go out make friends he does a lot of overtime
Make it interesting, change shit. Get a babysitter and go rondavoo somewhere. Get dressed up and do something sweet for him. Girl lve been married 38 years we always fall in love over and over again.
You cant expect your husband to be your only friend. Even being a mom you need to be your own person with your own group of friends and hobbies. You also need to tell him you want to sit down and talk, communicate exactly what you just said with him and tell him exactly what you want and need. But also understand that he is exhausted from working every day just to make sure there is a roof over yalls head and it may be causing him some stress, maybe work on intimacy as well
First and foremost I would love to hear you are taking care of you first. Join a moms group in your area so you can connect with other stay at home moms. Finding some other women in your situation could do so much for you at this point. Perhaps plan a date night with hubby and get a sitter. Even just a few hours of one on one time could do so much for your relationship. You are strong momma!
You need to take care of you so you feel full first. Neither of you can give from an empty vessel. Start making adult interaction a priority for you. I’m sure it will also help your marriage.
Can family watch the little one possibly? If not get him settled down early bath and all before dad gets home and plan a movie night or sit outside together for a while cook him a nice dinner never give up!
Call your friends! If you dont have any, reconnect with your old friends.
Dont rely on him totally.
Join a mom group and make some friends- set up play dates. Its good for you and your little to socialize with other stay home moms and their kids. Then re address the situation with your husband
Maybe he need help economic $, you can have part time job and see what happen
I think this is every sahm. I get this way sometimes and my hubby works so hard for our family and I miss him a lot. But we finally got my family to take our 5 kiddos for the weekend and it’s just like old times. It is hard to connect when your to busy with the kiddos and not thi king about yourself. Your a wonderful momma but get some you and him time somehow. A nice meal cooked for him and do a date night at the house. If you can have your kiddo go somewhere for a night that helps a lot. If not then like someone else said have him go to bed early. It sounds like you are both just worn plum out. Don’t give up! You got this.