I have a question; maybe this isn’t the right place for this question/advice. My son just turned a year old last week, and we found out a few weeks ago I’m pregnant with our second baby. I was initially very shocked about being pregnant and didn’t have the joyous feeling I did with our first. I was pregnant for nine months, still breastfeeding my firstborn and now having another baby in July. My body hasn’t been my body in almost two years and now another nine months of pregnancy, and however long I nurse the next baby! I am exhausted but feel guilty for not being super excited about this pregnancy. The thought of having two kids, one 18 months, and a newborn really freaks me out!! Please tell me I’m not the only mama who has felt this way.
Your feelings are valid.
You will do fine … normal panicky feelings you will be fine
Get your thyroid checked. I was so exhausted and weak I could barely function and no doctor ever mentioned my thyroid until my last pregnancy (due 4-13-2020). As soon as I began treatment for it, I had energy again! I don’t even feel like the same person
I understand and I felt like that too. Even though they are a couple years apart from each other. I think as time goes on you will start to feel better about it. Trust me, after a while you won’t even remember what it feels like to be a mother of one. There are days I wake up and ask myself how did all these children get here it felt like a year ago I only had 1. Now there are 4. Lean on your partner for support
My oldest 2 are 13 months to the day apart. I now have 5 kids between 2 and 8 years old. It’s hard but so worth it. I think you will adjust and be happy once baby is born.
Also have your Dr check to see if you are anemic. I was very very anemic and was exhausted literally all day.
I have gotten pregnant back to back 3 times each my boys were 5 months old when I got pregnant. My 4th baby is due june. They keep me on my feet just remember once n a while get a babysitter if u can and enjoy time for urself. Also I still haven’t gotten excited bout my last baby as i was for my other 3 bc I’m always tired. So no ur not alone
My kids are 4 years apart and I felt that way at first.
Your feelings of exhaustion, uncertainty and concern are valid. Pregnancy is difficult to begin with & even more so when you have little one(s).
My son was 11 weeks old when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I had 2 c-sections in a year & I had many of the feelings you’re talking about. Looking back, I do wish I would have enjoyed the pregnancy more, taken more photos, and soaked it all in. But- I did the best I could. And so are you! You will get through this!
It’s definitely going to be difficult. Try and set up a babysitter once or twice a week or get the oldest into daycare/school once or twice a week to give yourself a break. It would be best if u could figure a way to have both children watched a day or two a week which in my life wouldn’t be possible. In a few years it will get easier and you’ll be glad you had your children that close and that the hard (baby) years have passed! This is my perspective anyhow
With my 2nd I had to completely change my diet… I was still nursing my 1st and eating a relatively normal diet. The second time around I was tired all the time, I changed my diet, added a few protein snacks and more fruit and planned my meals better to be more nutritious. I also started walking between 1 to 2 miles a day at least 4 days of the week. Good luck!
I was also panicking with my second… I think I started getting excited about half way through… my oldest was 16 months when I got pregnant… it’s normal to feel this way, especially if your current pregnancy wasn’t planned.
I’m on baby number three, due any day now. My husband and I had decided to not have another kid after my son was born almost 3 years ago. I have a daughter from a previous relationship who my husband has been around since she was 18months old and we have our son. We were discussing options for “permanent” birth control when we found out I was pregnant again. Neither one of us were excited for a while. Now that he’s almost here we both can’t wait to meet him.
That being said, I would definitely talk to your dr/a therapist about your concerns because this pregnancy for me has come with a lot of depression and anxiety that I know will only be amplified after I give birth. I have a lot of the same feelings you do. I want my body back, and I’m exhausted and just not really ready for another. Your feelings are valid and should be addressed. Good luck momma!
Girl don’t feel bad I have a 3 yr old and a 3 month old and I am absolutely exhausted and overwhelmed. I wasn’t as excited about my second pregnancy either mainly because I work full time and daycare is so expensive and I was worried . You got this mama and you’ll do a great job . And just think they won’t be little very long and the exhaustion will eventually turn into missing them being so little . My husband always tells me money is just paper and one day they will Be on their own
They are going to be super good friends though. Don’t feel guilty. Society puts so much pressure on us parents, especially mom, to preform top notch all the time. Kids are safe, clean, fed, healthy, you’re doing a good job.
Im currently 35 weeks pregnant and this one was totally not planned at all… I havnt even had a baby in 8 years and to top it off theres twins… I was so very upset at first and the thought of taking care of 2 babies at once really freaked me out but now im excited and cant wait to meet my lil girls… We all go through hormonal changes and its ok to feel the way you feel but it will change
What were you expecting?
I was in your shoes! Cried when I found out about my second baby. It was really hard in the beginning plus throw ppd in the mix and it’s just chaos. My baby is 10 months old now and honestly I wouldn’t have it any other way. Once your past the newborn stage it gets easier. My advice is not to cuddle them to sleep. I made the mistake with my first and she needs me to hold her to sleep. With my second I just make sure she has a changed diaper, feed her and she likes to go to sleep on the bouncer. I did have to stop nursing my 2 year old a few months after (nursing aversion). Also by a sling/carrier. It will help you whenever you have grocery runs etc
Normal feelings, I even resented my second pregnancy because it took focus off my baby son. I wasn’t planning on a second so soon, surprise! But the further along I got the more I couldn’t wait for her. I felt pregnant for 2 years and nursed for 2 more; they’re 16 months apart. Totally worth it.