I feel guilty for leaving my kids for the entire day: Thoughts?

So today is my husband, and I’d like the first anniversary. Both of our kids (2&3) are sick right now, so they’re staying with grandparents instead of going to preschool for the day because of we both work. We had planned to go to dinner tonight and to a spa (we would be gone for about 3 hours), picking them up at 8:45 pm. I am feeling extremely guilty about leaving them for the entire day. I am going to go bring them their medicines before dinner then leaves again. I feel terrible. I want to cancel our date, but my husband gets irritated with my constant anxiety and guilt. I work all day tomorrow from 7 am-7:30 pm because I am a nurse. So I won’t see them all day tomorrow either. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do or any encouragement?

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Do watch you feel is right dont let no man tell you what to do even if he is your husband

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Go get the kids. I know when my daughter is sick, all she wants is cuddles.

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We skipped our anniversary dinner because our children were sick last year, it’s sad but it’s a sacrifice you make when your little ones aren’t well.

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Don’t feel guilty. You are a working mom. Every mom deserves to relax once in a while.

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I’d do what you want to. No point going if you dont want to, you’ll be miserable.

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I know they’re sick but celebrating these mile stones with your husband are very important. Ask your husband what he thinks is best 1st. If he wants to celebrate at home with candles and nice dinner then do that. I know the kids are important but they are safe. A few more hours will be okay

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Hey momma you need a day with your husband. Don’t feel guilty got the next 16 & 15 years. They probably won’t even remember this day. Go enjoy yourself.

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All my children are grown and on their own. You need to reschedule your date night! You’ll feel so guilty the whole time and sick kiddos need their momma!

That’s a toughie.

Good luck :four_leaf_clover:

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You need to make time for your marriage as well. Or it will fail. I understand the guilt. You will always have mommy guilt. It’s natural. It’s not about quantity its quality that matters. Your husband needs that attention too. So do you. I’ve been married 15 years, if you dont get that time. Its bound to fail. Your marriage and time with your husband is just as important as time with your kids. You are a woman first, then a mother, then a wife. And the same for your husband in that order.

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Your kids are far more important! Tell your husband go take a hike! Obviously he is not much of a father or he would not want to leave his sick children.

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U need a night out with ur husband it’s y’all first big milestone

They will be just fine, celebrate with your husband. He seems like hes really looking forward to having some time with you. Take the day off and enjoy yourself!

Oh girl! If the grandparents are ok with it then you’re fine. You guys need to celebrate you’re love as well. It wont make you a “bad mom” I promise. Being a mom is hard being a nurse is hard being both is exhausting. Anxiety sucks but it’s also good for you’re children to be around grandparents. You got this momma

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You’re a good momma, the little ones are safe and in good hands, Go and enjoy some dinner and spoiling with your husband. Anniversary is only 1 day out of the year.

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Don’t cancel on your husband. This will be your only 1st anniversary with him. The kids won’t remember in a month from now that they stayed at Grandma house for 3 hours while you celebrated. You’re your own worst critic. Enjoy yourselves this evening. Happy anniversary!!

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If it is just sniffles and Grand Parents feel comfortable keeping them - Go to dinner and don’t feel guilty. If you feel like they need their mother, go get your babies, the celebration will wait and hopefully many more anniversaries

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Im torn on this because being me i would cancel and be with my babies (yes, im married) but the healthy answer is they are with y’alls parents, one of the safest caring places our children are lucky enough to go and it is SO important to keep a connection and spark with your spouse and IT IS HARD with littles. I say take advantage and go celebrate. Those babies are cared and loved for and sounds like you both need this! Its a few hours mama!

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Maybe you could have them brought to you at your lunch time and you can see them for a little bit ? Then just give them extra hugs and loves and enjoy your night with your man!:wink: