Mama’s I need help with my breastfeeding/formula journey. I just had my baby five days ago, and no matter what I try, she will not latch, which leaves pumping as my only option to give her breast milk. My milk is just now starting to come in, and my supply so far has been good. The past couple of days, we’ve been exclusively giving my baby formula as my supply has been low. And honestly, I really like it to the point that I’m debating on not pumping and deciding to exclusively formula feed going forward. But, I’m feeling a lot of guilt, especially as my milk starts to leak. I’m not having a supply issue as of now, just her latching issues making pumping my only option. My husband is “supportive,” but I know deep down he would be disappointed if I didn’t give him breast milk. He was exclusively breastfed until he was two years old. I was adopted and formula-fed. I find myself having no desire to pump as the formula is just easier. I like the freedom and the fact that my husband can help me and I’m not strapped to a pump every two hours on top of feedings. How do I make this decision? Any advice, similar situations, etc.? It would be a lot easier now to take steps to stop my milk production than it would be, say, two weeks down the road. But I’m really struggling with the guilt of not giving her breast milk and feeling lazy because I could pump; I just don’t have the desire to. I constantly cry over the stress of all of this, and I feel sick to the point that I’m not eating. It’s obviously not healthy for me to continue in this state of mind. Thank you for your help!
Honestly, don’t feel guilty at all. You’re the mummy, it’s your choice whether you want to breastfeed or bottle feed… nobody else’s. They have no right at all to judge you and to be gone straight neither does your partner as its not his body. I had plans to breastfeed my son and literally the morning after I cried to my partner and asked him to go to the shop and get formula. I struggled to do it and I personally just didn’t feel comfortable. Bottle feeding both of my babies made me and them just as close as breastfeeding would’ve and I enjoyed being able to give them a bottle whilst holding them in my arms and as a bonus, if I was too tired my partner could bottle feed them too!
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I feel guilty for not wanting to breastfeed: Thoughts?
Mama, do you. Do what is healthy for you and baby, and that includes taking care of your mental health.
Fed is best and a happy mama makes for a happy baby
I felt this way and ended up sobbing everytime I needed to feed, plus it hurt so bad. In the end I had to do what was right for my sanity. Fed is still best…
Breast is best. Unless… you don’t want too. It’s not only about what’s good for your baby but YOU MATTER TOO. I have 1 child who was EBF and 1 child who only breast fed for a month or so then went straight formula… I wouldn’t change either situation for the world. That’s what worked FOR US !
You do what makes you and your baby happy. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I don’t like to breastfeed and I still tried with my kids. But I’d do what makes you less stressed
Fed is best! Do not stress yourself over this.
FED IS BEST! Good luck mama . You got it
You do what is best for you. I have for kids all were formula fed. I just knew breastfeeding wasn’t for me so I didn’t even try. Mine were all happy and healthy
Fed is best. For your sanity, your mental health, you should just focus on making sure baby is healthy and fed. Babies can also sense mom and her emotions imo and there’s no need to feel guilt. You did your absolute best, and still are. hugs go out to you mama.
And maybe talk to hubby about your emotions right now, and ask for his support. Don’t bottle it all up. Share it with him. Ask to be held and don’t be afraid to cry. Let those feels out. It’s okay. And remember, you’re not alone. I promise.
My milk never came in with my first , I tried for 2 days with him. With my second I decided breastfeeding wasn’t for us , my formula fed children are happy and healthy. Nothing wrong with choosing what’s best for your family.
A Fed baby is all that matters.
Fed Babies are Happy Babies! Whether you breastfeed, formula feed, or if your little one has a feeding tube, FED IS BEST
Do not feel guilty. It isn’t for everyone.
You need to do what is best for your mental health in this situation.
I was a breastfed baby, my baby was exclusively formula. Just because someone else was something else, doesnt mean its right for you and your baby.
Your husband is not the one that will be having to do it, so he should only ever be supportive.
FED IS BEST
You can always try the nipple guards some Babys latch easier with those.
FED IS BEST. You also have to prioritize your mental health. I have 2 babies, both had latching issues, and I refused to be hooked to the pump all the time.
Breast fed ,formula fed, it does not matter as long as baby is being fed! Your doing great mama’s don’t forget that💝 and you do what is best for you and your baby! #stressfreemamaisbest
Have you called the hospital to talk to a lactation specialist?? Just call labor and delivery and ask. If you talk to someone and try your best maybe you won’t feel regretful of the situation? There could be many reasons a baby won’t latch. (Check for tongue tie also) I’m not passing judgment as I only lasted a few weeks because of low supply. It least I said I tried my best.
My daughter never learned how to latch and I pumped for the first 3 months until I got a milk clog and it got infected, I lost my milk supply. Boy was it the best thing to happen! It was so much easier and we were all a lot happier on formula. A fed baby is best, however that needs to happen. I’m currently pregnant again and this time I’ll make the transition quicker and with less guilt if latching is an issue.
You tried you’ve given her the liquid gold and the best start if you want to formula feed then do you
Do what’s best for you and baby. A fed happy baby and a happy momma is best no matter how you decide to feed.
Fed is best! That baby needs a mentally healthy momma too. I attempted to breastfeed all 3 of mine, it just didn’t happen, they’re all healthy and thriving!
Ask your doctor for the silicone nipple cover, my daughter couldn’t latch either, but with that she was able to nurse. It also protects from getting sore as well! Breastfed her for 11 months using those.
No Mother’s journey is the same if you don’t want to you shouldn’t bc you won’t be happy. Happy well mom is essential to a happy well baby.
I was the same way. My babygirl wouldn’t latch good until one day I laid on my back and had her tummy to tummy with me. She latched so I then felt how it should feel when she has a good latch on. After that, it became a lot easier for me. A few days, that’s exactly how I fed her, with me lying down on my back. Slowly but surely she figured out how to properly latch to me while sitting up. I breast fed for 6 months before we went strictly formula. What ever road you decide whether it be formula or breast, just know, momma knows best. The baby is feed, which is all that matters! **big hugs to you
Make sure your baby is checked for a lip tye/tongue tye. My son went 4 months misdiagnosed. It impacts speech and jaw development later. Do what’s best for your mental health and sanity.
I have one that was formula fed and one that was breastfed… it’s all about whats best for you… mom needs her sanity to be the best mom… do what you feel, deep down, is right. Trust your instincts and everything will be alright
Two babies here, I fed both till 3 months, I hated every single second of it. Guild and pressure made me do it. My mental health was so bad. I just snapped one day and decided my health was more important so my child would be happier. DO NOT feel guilty mama. Feed your baby and be happy!!
Don’t feel guilty, keep trying baby will latch in time. When you stressed baby is also stressed. Do you have any breastfeeding groups like La Leche League International you could get advise from. Don’t keep what you feel inside either hang in there, it does get easier x
Do what is best for you and your baby. My hubby ( now my ex) never wanted to help with our son. I pumped a lot cause my milk came in big time. But I also used some for!how. My son Sid fine with both.
My first born I felt pressured to breast feed and like yourself he just wouldn’t latch it was the most stressful time ever … and because I was pressured into breast feeding I didn’t buy bottle … steriliser or any formula so after day 2 of him barely eating my partner dashed to a 24hr in the middle of the night to buy all the equipment and he devoured his first formula bottle … I didn’t want to go down the pump route as back then I would have been forced to stay home a lot as they didn’t have the portable pumps they have now …. Didn’t breastfeed my second and she settled in so well coming home from hospital also because I wasnt under any stress and my partner could help … I’ve always admired people who breastfeed as it’s a tough thing to do but your baby will thrive on formula and you will be less stressed… please don’t take notice of how your husband was feed as a baby … completely different circumstances and fed is alway best
I am an exclusively breastfeeding Mom, due for my 3rd in just a few weeks. I breastfed both of my older kids until they were 2. That all being said…if something goes awry or I just don’t mentally feel up to it, I would feel zero guilt about switching baby to formula. Sometimes, what’s best for baby is what’s best for Momma.
I have four kids living at home and I’m pregnant with baby number five and I breast-fed the first three Which I love doing but with homeschooling and struggling to breast-feed and my only option to pump it’s just made life hard to try to breast-feed so I gave my fourth baby and plan on giving baby number five formula. And June so bad with baby if you’re not breast-feeding I was so happy that I actually got a hold my baby and got enjoy her instead of dealing with the struggles of breastfeeding and pumping to keep my supple up so Which ever one you choose do it with a piece of mind .
You do whats best for you and your baby. But if you do want to give breastfeeding a shot get in with an IBCLC and work on your latch. The best advice I ever got when I was struggling in the beginning was to never give up on a bad day. The second best advice I ever got with mine was it doesnt have to be all or nothing. Mine had an undiagnosed lip and tongue tie and i was a ftm and was struggling. Dont stress nor beat yourself up over taking care of you and your baby.
I think you should make a informed feeding choice . If you feel the stress of pumping is overwhelming, and that you rather not continue then that is your choice to make.
If you feel that you want to work on the latch issues and continue trying then meet with an IBCLC for support to continue. Don’t continue struggling in silence though.
I am sure you will make the best choice for and your baby.
Don’t stress about it. If you want to breastfeed and need help see if there is a La Leche League or a lactation consultant who can help. If not enjoy time with your baby using formula. Love that gorgeous baby and enjoy your time together.
Dont feel guilty at all. I have 3 kids. I bottle fed 2 because they wouldn’t latch. I enjoyed my babies so much more after deciding to do the formula. The stress was to much for me.
I’m a mom who wanted to breastfeed, but ended having to switch due to stress/time management.m, with all 3. I gave them as much as I could handle then I did what I had to make sure we BOTH were happy and healthy. I’m wanna tell you now, it’s gonna hurt, your body, your mind, your hormones, everything are telling you to breastfeed and doing the opposite, it does hit a sore spot in the soul. But instead of letting that feeling take over, replace it, look at your baby, look at how happy and healthy and just adorable he or she is. You can chose to go either path, but it is your choice. Your baby will be just as healthy either way. Fed is best. Sanity is best. Healthy baby AND Mom is best. As for your husband, just sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. It sounds like he’ll support you either way. Good luck!
Do what’s easier on you! I didn’t my first, did my second and had no milk my third. Don’t worry about other peoples opinions.
I decided not to breastfeed this time around simply because it was easier for me. We have to put ourselves first sometimes in order to be able to put them first most of the time.
Fed is best. It’s all up to what works for you! Yes people will tell you to breast feed, but do what you need to as long as your baby is fed. Me, personally, I breastfed all my babies and plan to with the one on the way. But it’s not for everyone
I tried to breastfeed my first child. However my job made it IMPOSSIBLE to pump at work and didn’t care if I was left in literal pain from not pumping. So when she was 8 months old I had to switch to formula. I too felt guilty and had a hard time. However, this child is now 8 years old and is happy, healthy and did not suffer in the transition. FED IS BEST. It’s great that your husband is breastfeeding supportive but you need to do what’s best for you and baby, not what your husband thinks with his decorative nipples. Feed formula if that’s what’s best for you and baby. Don’t feel guilty and sure as hell don’t let anyone else make you feel bad about your decision.
Breastfeeding is very personal….I don’t know where we ladies started letting anybody else help us make that decision. If men had to breastfeed, we’d have a lot more formula fed babies!! My advice is just to think it through….alone. Then make a decision and stick to it. And don’t worry what anybody thinks……it’s your baby, your boobs💗
As long as baby is fed, do whatever you wish.
I was in the same exact situation. I would pump a bottle then feed. I was coming to terms with formula feeding and then i ended up in hospital 11 days PPM with a bad infection. I was in hospital for a week and ended up drying completely up. My baby is growing very well, hes so happy, i am able to go grocery shopping without hurrying back. Overall yes im sad i was not able to provide from my body but i think its a great choice and do not regret it. Your healthy mentally and physically are important as well!
Do what’s best for you and your baby! Fed is best and your mental health is also so important! I had the same issues….I didn’t want to feel like I was the ONLY one who could feed my baby. With formula anyone could feed her while I got rest, went out and did errands, or just had me time. And everyone should support your decision no matter what!
Some people don’t want to breastfeed and that’s okay.
So long as baby is being fed, and healthy!
Do what works best for you BOTH. Your preferences and feelings matter too. Don’t let anyone shame you. Fed is best, no matter how she gets fed.
I pumped for my daughter because of this issue, she wouldn’t latch. I ended up swapping to only formula because I was driving myself ragged trying to pump
After you get her checked for anomalies, see if a breast-feeding mother you know can feed her a few times to get her used to it in a low stress situation. This has worked for centuries. After you’ve done all you can make the decision you can live with.
I bottle feed and I’m proud of it.
Don’t feel guilty for doing what you feel is right.
Just because everyone else does it doesn’t mean you have to!
In the beginning, I breastfed/exclusively pumped for both my daughters. Mentally, it became too much for me and I switched to formula. It’s not for everyone and that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with whatever you choose to do, so don’t feel guilty for doing what it best for you and baby.
You’re mama and you know best. Good luck.
If she’s not latching you may want to have her checked for a tied lip … If she doesn’t have that you may want to consult with a lactation consultant to make sure she gets her latch - if you want to continue to go with breastfeeding …
Your a good mom either way do what is best for you and what makes you comfortable your baby is happy and healthy that’s whats important .
I keep my grandson he was bottle gofer
Some breast milk then went on formula. He is happy and healthy. Don’t beat yourself up it’s not for everyone. I have 2 grown daughter that only had formula. I believe the babies are much more satisfied and there feedings are a little more spread out when they are on formula. You do what is right for you ans don’t beat yourself up.
I could have written this myself. I managed 2 weeks and had to switch to formula full time. I lost 36lbs in weight, couldn’t eat was crying constantly. My boy developed colic and lost a lot of weight and became jaundiced. I felt so much guilt for feeling how I was feeling. By the 2 week mark my milk was in and was able to express loads. But I just couldn’t continue mentally. I still felt that guilt months down the line, my boobs were still leaking I felt like my body was mocking me saying you gave up to easily, you’re a failure. Little did I know I had developed PND which wasn’t helping things. My boy is now 11 months. He is healthy, thriving and most of all happy! And so am I! The guilt isn’t there as much now that I could only last 2 weeks, but I know it was the right decision for me. Only you can decide what’s best for YOU mama, if your hubby hassles you over your decision, tell him to grow a pair and feed the baby himself. Happy mum = happy baby. Fed is best, doesn’t matter which way
First of all a fed baby is the best.
Second I had issues with my first where I ended up exclusively pumping.
My second looked like it was going the same way, but after almost two weeks and yes some intense guilt from myself, family and medical professionals (even though they thought it was encouragement. They tried. And all my doctors like 5 said the same thing it takes a while for a latch to be happen.) he finally latched (he is 5 weeks now.)
So I think you should take a mental break and think if it’s something that is really is beneficial to you. My sil has the same issue you have plus thrust except the whole husband guilt. She has decided to continue till he is two months old and then forgo breastfeeding for formula which we all support. It’s best for her mental health. So the only person who can really decide is you.
Don’t feel guilty! As long as the baby is fed and healthy, that’s all that matters!
Has baby been checked for a tongue tie or lip tie?
That could be effecting the latch.
If you don’t feel drawn to breastfeed, then don’t.
Your baby will be happy with a full belly, no matter if it’s full from boob or bottle.
I wish I would have stopped breastfeeding at the point where I really wanted to instead of listening to others opinions. I had terrible PPA and I felt overstimulated all the time from the touch. You do what’s best for you, I started feeling this way because mine also had a bad latch but I “powered through” and got a lactation consultant to teach me how to correctly do it and it was the worst thing I could have done for myself. My anxiety had been off the charts for almost a year after she was born before I got professional help and now my therapist recommends I stop breastfeeding altogether but my baby’s so attached to me she refuses to wean. It’s so crazy and hectic and if I ever have another I’m going to choose to stop breastfeeding earlier or just not do it at all.
Mama, you know what’s best for baby. The fact that you worry at all already means you’re doing a great job. A fed baby is a happy baby.
I tried to breastfeed my first, it didn’t happen. So we switched to formula within 2-3 days. When I had my second, I formula fed right from the word go. Neither has a single allergy, neither had a single ear infection, both are good looking and intelligent boys. Your kids will give you more than enough reasons to feel guilty about later on, this should NOT be one of them. Do what YOU need to do.
Have you had them checked for tongue tie? It seems odd they’re not latching but not all babies get it straight away. Don’t feel bad whatever you decide
Fed is best mama! Breastfeeding/pumping is a LOT of work and at times can be lonely and mentally exhausting. I formula feed for similar reasons, and my son is thriving. Mom being healthy is just as important! Do what works for YOU and baby and don’t feel bad about it.
Congratulations by the way
Your mental health matters. If you don’t want to pump then don’t pump. And talk to your man. I’m willing to bet he wouldn’t actually be disappointed especially if he gets to help feed baby and bond with baby. I thought my husband would be disappointed but he was not at all.
Do what’s best for you and baby. I exclusively pumped for a year but we also had to fortify his milk. I was a just enougher pumper. I hated being attached to a pump but it’s what we wanted.
When I had my daughter the doctors and nurses said that latching is something babies know how to do, but that’s absolutely incorrect. My daughter couldn’t get a good latch for the first 2 months, my nipples hurt so bad I wanted to cry every time she ate, it got better with time but I struggled to make it to 6 months because it’s mentally and physically exhausting. Now I have my second baby, he was great at latching and I thought breastfeeding was gonna be a breeze this time since I had done it once already. I was so wrong, I feel more stressed out this time and I think about quitting literally every single day but I’m trying so hard to hold on until 6 months at least. Breastfeeding is very difficult and stressful, don’t do it if you’re feeling overwhelmed. There is nothing wrong with not breastfeeding as long as your baby is fed, happy and healthy.
Have you tried a nipple shield?I failed at breastfeeding my first because I was told not to use one, then with my second I said screw it and used and was able to breastfeed her much longer. Either way do not let people make you feel bad, I tortured myself over not being able to do it for long in reality its very difficult for some women and formula will keep your baby thriving and healthy. As long as breastfeed the first few days to give them antibodies through colostrum you are doing totally fine! PS: my son is a very healthy 18 year old now.
Before you decide to go to formula exclusively maybe see a lactation consultant to see what advice they have for you. Nipple shields or other devices can be the solution. I had a hard time breastfeeding all three of mine, my supply was always low. I combo fed breast and formula add I had terrible guilt at the beginning too. Just remember, you are a better mom if you’re not worrying constantly about how much he’s eating and if he’s latching etc.
I’ll probably be the odd one out, but I choose not to breastfeed from the beginning, not for any other reason other than I didn’t want too.
I wanted other people to be able to help feed the baby, and I wanted my body to be mine again after carrying a baby for 9 months.
I struggle with mental health as it is, so I wanted to do everything possible to make the newborn stage “easier” for me.
Sure, people gave me hate for not even trying to breast feed, but that didn’t matter to me. Happy healthy momma= happy healthy baby
Fed will always be best, however you choose to do it.
I breastfed my boys for a month then my supply dissapeared, if anything pump for awhile, supplement. Mix the formula and breastmilk. That way he gets the nutrients from breast milk for at least a month the first month is most important.
Do what is best for you. Fed is best, no matter what the source. I breastfed my twins so my supply was ridiculous, but then struggled with my others and had to supplement with formula on occasion. As long as they are getting fed they will turn out just fine!
Okay girl most importantly you do what you want to do and do not listen to anyone’s judgments! Now as far as her latching if you decide to continue breastfeeding u should definitely see a lactation consultant they are amazing at helping with latching and everything . If it wasn’t for the lactation consultant at the hospital when I had my youngest I seriously would of never been successful with breastfeeding him. My middle child I attempted to breastfeed and honestly I didn’t really know anything about it and I quit around 6 weeks and formula fed him. And my oldest was fully formula fed. All 3 are healthy happy kids! I was determined to breastfeed my youngest mostly bc I didn’t want to pay the cost of formula bc my middle son ended up being put on a very expensive one so I wanted to avoid that. As far as your hubby just sit down and be honest with him I am sure he will completely understand girl I hope you the best in whichever journey you choose:heart:
Fed is best! You do what is best for you and baby.
Hey there! Im a formula mama. My meds at the time made me unable. I felt horrible about it. My friend had a kid like 3 months before me and was super mom with all the breastfeeding and super crunchy type parenting (btw I’m not judging, just explaining our different parenting styles).
Our kids are 10-11 now and we took them to the zoo the other day and they ended up fighting over Cheetos that had been dropped in the car floor that morning and left all day.
So my friend and I, being the amazing parents we are, ate the damn Cheetos ourselves.
My point is, give yourself a break, you wanna formula feed do it, you wanna breastfeed there’s resources to help you figure it out…it doesn’t matter, they all end up being assholes
You can pump and feed as well as supplement with formula . A lot of mothers do this to not feel overwhelmed and your baby will be fine.
Fed is Best. Do not let anyone shame you for how you choose to feed your baby. If breastfeeding is causing you this much stress and unhappiness it clearly may not be the best option for you. As long as your baby is fed and well cared for, the source of the nutrition is not important. Good Luck Mama!
My baby was 10 weeks early
And I had a massive milk supply but I couldn’t breast feed cause she had a tube
She’s now 39 weeks and since she was 35 weeks we have tried both boob and bottle … she takes both but her mouth is still too small for a proper boob feed
And I can only take her home once she is feeding either way properly … my milk supply has gone down a lot in that time, so atm I’m mainly focusing on pump and storing it in the deep freezer for later on/to take to her
So we are focusing on bottle with both pumped breast milk and formula to get her home quicker
But once she gets abit bigger and if I’m still producing milk I will try a proper breast feed
Do whatever works for you as long as Bub is fed is all that matters!
She probly has a.tongue tie xx
Have babe checked for oral ties!! (Tongue, lip, Buccal) they are the cause of sooo many unsuccessful breast feeding journeys Because of uneducated doctors. Pediatricians get a 20 min class on ties & blow them off like nothing when they can cause life long issues, (speech, food aversions, teeth placement ) !!!
Fed is best! You have to be healthy and if it’s affecting your mental health, just stick with the formula. Don’t worry if your husband isn’t pleased about it. It’s your body and breastfeeding can be so painful to the point that they cry. That’s not fair to the mother to have Ruth at much stress and strain unless they truly want to breastfeed. Formula has all the vitamins and minerals that your baby needs so don’t feel bad if you decide to use it instead XOXO
Please don’t feel guilty . Dont be pressured into something that is causing you stress because other people think you should do it.
You’ve given your baby the best part…the colostrum…giving them your antibodies …now feed formula guilt free if that works best for you
Mama do you, let me tell you why. I have exclusively breastfed all 6 of my older children, now with my 7th baby I was, but he is now almost 6 months and isn’t gaining right so we are now in the hospital, admitted and stuck for some days til they figure out why he isn’t gaining. They now want me to breastfeed every 3 hrs, 10min on each side AND supplement with formula….they have also mentioned a possibility of a g-tube (feeding tube)
Your baby will thrive, no matter how they are fed. My 2 oldest were strictly bottle fed and I tried to breast feed my last baby. He wasn’t getting enough nutrition and put him on a bottle. He gained over a pound in week. Breast-feeding is not for everyone, mentally or physically.
It took my son several weeks to build up the stamina to latch for a full feeding. I used a Medela nipple shield to help him on top of going to a bottle of pumped milk when he got tired. I didn’t give up even when we got frustrated and were both crying from it. We have now been nursing for 13 months. It wasn’t always easy, but it had been worth every effort!
First month of best feeding was hellfor all 3 of my children blister after blister but I knew I wanted to give them the best as I was lucky to have the milk after the first month it was easy no making or cleaning of bottles, so much cheaper, you get a bin with baby that only you can have, you body changes the milk to exactly what your avy needs and it helps you loose baby fat. You are very lucky tobe producing some mum can only wish they could. Push through they are only a baby for such a little time
Fed is best. I’ve done both. All of my kids are smart. It didn’t make a difference how I fed them. To be honest, formula was a lot easier. Good luck with whatever you decide
Don’t give up more relaxed you are easier it will be
no need to feel guilty, I formula fed both my babies–they were fufilled, happy and rarely sick–now they are both grown healthy adults!
I agree that fed is best. But, if you want to try to breast feed there’s a thing called nipple shields. I had to use them with my daughter.
The health department can help too. I went there and they helped so much.
Doesn’t seem like breastfeeding is for you when you bring up all the reasons NOT to and not really any reason to breastfeed other than how someone else will feel about it, it’s just not your thing. That’s okay
Feed the baby! Whether is breast milk or formula… just feed the baby. Relax. You’re still a good mom, no matter how you feel your child!
your body, mama! you have feelings and desires. you do you, and keep the kids fed!
Girl get u a Brezza and stop trippin. Dont stress yourself over breastfeeding feeding. Theres going to be way more issues over baby’s lifetime. Get formula, feed baby, and get some rest. No one can tell the difference between a formula baby or a breast baby.
FED IS BEST. We live in a world where new moms have more then one option to feed their infant. If for any reason your not up to it then feed your baby a bottle momma. I formula fed my first due to production issues, my second I was a dairy cow & exclusively pumped. Exclusively pumping is no picnic & it takes a lot out of you & it’s twice as much work. Don’t feel bad if it’s not for you, don’t let anyone make you feel bad either. As long as your baby is fed then your doing what that baby needs.