I feel like a terrible mom: Advice?

I am a single mother of two little girls (4 and 1). I love my kids more than anything, but sometimes I get so frustrated with them when I have things to do around the house, and they are just very clingy. I find myself getting angry, and sometimes I yell at them for the smallest of things. I always apologize, but they are so young, I know they don’t understand, and I feel like a terrible mother. I don’t ever be physical with them when I have these moments…my four-year-old will only ever get a small tap on her butt or her hand when warranted, but am I a terrible mother for having moments where I just want them to behave and sit still so I can just mop a floor or do some laundry? Criticisms recommended, please.

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Haha that’s motherhood. You are not the only one who does this! We are human🖤 try and cut yourself some slack momma

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We are only human I’m sure every mother has one of these days . Your not alone . Your doing an awesome job mama keep on keeping on .

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Find activities for your kiddo to do. It might work for 10 minutes, but keep at it.

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We all have done this. Prayers for you.

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I give my kids screen time when I need to get something done. Well the tv is always on but I give my 3 yr old the iPad.

Set good expectations for yourself when they are playing nicely then get some things done quickly, if they are fussy and needing attention then wait a little while.

Definitely frustrating though! I have a 3 yr old and 10m old soul I feel it!

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Oh honey, that’s part of being a mother. You are doing a good job. Just keep loving them!!

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I am guilty too…all we can do is try not to yell,challenge ourselves to a different coping method when we feel the yells coming on, and the a big celebration when we succeed, I’m not kidding it’s like potty training for yelling adults. And involve the kids, or someone else to make us more accountable :heart: you got this momma

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You are a very normal momma. We all feel like this sometimes…sometimes we feel like this a lot. Give yourself a break. Give yourself a pat on the back. Take a deep breath…and know you are doing a good job.

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Not terrible. Harassed and maybe too goal oriented

It’s a daily struggle.
Some days cleaning will win.
Most others the kiddos win.
And you’re feeling like the monkey in the middle.
Yay for motherhood. LOL

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I feel it mama. I’m a single mom of two kids. 3 and 1 yrs old. I get frustrated. When I’m feeling like I’m angry at my children for not listening I take a moment to think about it. Self awareness is key. Don’t act on impulse but on what you know is right. Be careful. But also know that you’re only human. We make mistakes and I’m sure you’re doing a great job. Keep trying … you’ll get through this.

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You’re not a terrible mother, you are a mom. You could have the 4 yr old help you with laundry. (I let my nieces and nephews 4,3, and 1 dump out clean the clothes for me, put soap into the washer, start the dryer get them involved in part of it. Then usually they go do something else. With mopping or sweeping you can have your children fill the bucket (help turn on the water), have them “sweep” while you clean something else and then sweep after them. Getting them involved in the cleaning will take a little longer, but it can also work well to get things done.

Keep on trucking!

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Every mother knows this feeling.

This is when self-care is most important. Call a friend or family member to watch them for an hour or two. Go do your nails or take a hot bath, read a book.

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No you are not a terrible mom went through the same with mine sometimes we just need some me time…I never had it no one to turn to for help my mom passed …get your mom or your mother in law to take them for a few hours and get what you need done and when they get back home have a special time planned with them////

It happens :woman_shrugging:t3: when I’m trying to do things and my 2 year old is pushing me to play or being wild I will “ahhhhhh” and he gets upset so I feel bad and hold him but he kisses me after and says sorry. I feel like a bad mom those times too.

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That’s just part of being a Mama honey. Your doing a great job. Try turning on music when you want to clean. My kids loved to dance & it gave me a chance to get things done. Good luck sweetie. Your not alone & it will get easier

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Mom of 3 and always yelling for one or another… I don’t whoop my kids so when they hear me loud they know is time to stop
You are not doing nothing bad at all

No, you aren’t a bad mom!! I go through this every single day! Being that they’re so young, maybe find a movie that will keep them content long enough to get some things done if you let them watch movies! Put on some fun music and tell them to dance in the living room for a while or color a picture, bottom line, find something fun to distract them! It’s so easy to get frustrated, try not to yell at them, at one year old, they don’t fully understand and it just scares them. If none of these work, I would wait until the little one takes a nap, the older can be more easily distracted, you will get through this I promise!!! Reach out for help when you can, make arrangements for play dates if possible, when you’re child free, clean in that time. Hopefully something I suggested helps!!

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You’re not a terrible mom. We all have those days. Hell some days I wanna grab my passport and run far, far away. Then there are those days when I want to rip up their birth certificates :woman_shrugging:t4::joy:. Just kidding but seriously though it will get a easier when they get a little older.

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