My mother in law moved in a couple months ago and didn’t get me wrong I love her. Their relationship has always been strained, so they are trying to get back in a good place, and I am all for that. The problem is we bought a house that needs repairs, and they act as if I have no say in anything. My husband and I talked about what we wanted prior to her coming, and now everything is going the way they decide. That’s not all we never do anything just the two of us, no dates, walks and our kids always let us go. Plus, he hasn’t been affectionate in any way for months. I have told him how I feel about it, and he just says when everything is done that he will be there for me again. But that’s the thing I want to be involved, not just a bystander.
Sit down talk communicate try and figure out a solution and tell him you guys are a team and any decisions go throu both of y’all
Yeah, big mistake letting her move in.
Stop paying for anything.
Tell him how you want things done. If you don’t want something done that way tell him NO. How else will he know. You can overrule your MIL. If he doesn’t like it then I would give him an ultimatum.
Well tell them to include you or nothing gets done and she could leave
You’re not moving into my home and changing things because that’s what you want. Not happening. Big mistake letting her move in and they weren’t even in a good place either. They have to work on it living under the same roof? No ma’am. Only way any in law of mine would move in with me is if it’s seriously health related. Talk to your husband and put your foot down
Ask how you can help! Tell both of them you want to help them. Be part of it! Would you want to help your mother? Get past yourself, be part of their family.
The fact that hes actually regressing and pulling away from you and closer to her says a lot. There seems to be a boundary issue. Time for Momma to go
Yep been there …I was married to mama boy
This should be good.
Why did she move in? Is it health related? Also even though she’s there that shouldn’t be an excuse for him to not be there for you now & for him not to be affectionate with you!
Oh heck no. My home is my refuge. And will look how I want it. Stand up for yourself and set boundaries
As soon as I read the word mil I commented, there is and never should be competition here.
Your husband should have your back, should stand along beside you and always fight for you.
Even if your wrong p, he should address it in private to you never in front of the other, tell your husband what you need,expect and want in your situation. Mil can be so hateful it’s their son but now he is your husband mil should loose every time her position and rights un your home your his wife, the woman he lives, you should always whenever be first. Xx
Tell her the truth that she moved into rekindle the relationship between her &her son ¬ to try design renovate your home that that’s your job
Marriage isn’t about being there for your spouse when it’s convenient. You’re supposed to always be there for each other. Your opinion should matter, you’re partners. I would talk to him and tell him things need to change and I would talk to them together and let them know that you have the right to have your home how you and your husband want it, she’s just a visitor.
Unacceptable. YOU are his wife not his mommy. If he wants mommy time he can have it. I would pack my bag and tell him her or me
Not acceptable. She needs to back up and he needs to stand up to her.
No way I would put with that unacceptable