I feel like my best friend is using me: Advice?

. I feel like my best friend of over 20 years is using me. I agreed to watch her four-year-old while she worked, she is a teacher, because she was having a hard time affording daycare. I told her to just bring food for him. I watched him for over two months, and she only brought snacks TWICE, which really pissed me off. I let her know that it’s hard enough to keep my family fed, and there ain’t no way I am going to do free babysitting plus feed him too. She kept ‘forgetting,’ and I felt like she only did that cuz she knew I would feed him regardless. Well, she gets a boyfriend and has him start watching him. I told her she shouldn’t let someone she just met watch her kid. But she did anyway, so I stayed out of it. Since then, I have moved, and I am trying to save up for a vehicle, so I planned on getting a side job to help with that. But now she wants me to start babysitting again, and I am feeling some kinda way about it. For one, I would NEVER expect anyone to watch my kid for free for 8 to 10 hours a day. Even if they offered, I would feel obligated to compensate even if it’s a little. I am saving her almost 500 a month. I really need the extra money, and I am going to ask for ten bucks a da,y (50 a week,) but was wondering what others would do in my situation. I don’t want to mess my friendship up, but I truly feel like she’s using me. And I really just need someone else opinion. Ty!


I don’t think you’re in the wrong!! And $10 a day that’s very reasonable. If you need another job for the extra cash and she has a problem, she’s not a very good friend. You have to do what’s best for you and your family .

50, a is really reasonable and ask her to bring the little ones breakfast, lunch & snacks

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If she didn’t supply food for own child she won’t pay you.


I saw this question over a year ago.


Ask her for the money upfront each week or you dont look after the kid


That is a very reasonable amount especially if u r feeding the child too

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Nope. Have this happen quite often. You give an inch they’ll take a mile unfortunately. For your own sanity, and to possibly salvage the friendship (at least keep too much resentment at bay) I’d end the babysitting.

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What teachers r still working right now especially 8 to 10 hours a day?

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50$ is def a reasonable amount to ask and pay especially knowing your child is safe with someone you really know … HOWEVER don’t expect to receive it if she’s already done u dirty with food, and let some stranger watch him … nope … u may as well do it for free or don’t do it at all if you wanna keep your friendship in tact…


Didn’t this get posted awhile ago


I would ask for $80 a weej to cover food too. Since she doesn’t supply it. Also I would ask for the money at the beginning of the week instead of the end of the week. So that you know you will get paid for that week.

I wouldn’t because she took advantage of you the first time. Don’t give her the opportunity to do it again.

Went through the same exact thing needless to say we are no longer besties​:wink::woman_shrugging:t3:

Say no if she is a true friend she won’t get her panties in a twist

I did the babysitting thing and was horribly taken advantage of and I vowed never to do so ever again. That young lady’s bf cheated on her and her baby 7mths and her mum who is my neighbor asked me to sit for a while till she got a daycare and I watched that child till she was almost 2. I taught her to walk and talk. Her mother is an ungrateful cretin who took advantage for long enough and my husband made me stop .

10 a day is not enough money ,20 a day 100 per week with food is a good price …first week she don’t pay you stop babysitting


Jus don’t do it… friend’s or not…
You have your own life… it doesn’t revolve around them…jus bluntly say no…jus refuse & put your foot down… Don’t be afraid or ashamed :heavy_heart_exclamation::heavy_heart_exclamation::heavy_heart_exclamation:
Be strong with tuff love…


I’d ask for money upfront at least half! It’s hard because you want to make sure the child is safe and with you he or she is. Not cool she let her boyfriend watch the child that’s how abuse happens. Anyway, do what you can without hurting your family and your pockets and let her know how you feel face to face in a long conversation not a quick chat or over the phone :heart:

Say no. We have to quarantine anyway.