My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and share a 9-month-old. I have primary custody. We don’t live together because we are trying to save up for a place but spend weekends together with his parents. Lately, I’ve been starting to feel differently about him. He doesn’t use my name or call me “babe” like he used to, but he does tell me that he loves me. I still call him babe occasionally, but I’m also the one to kiss or hug first. Aside from sex once in a while and a kiss hello and goodbye, there’s no real physical affection between us. He spends most of the time I’m over, texting his friends, or having a beer and watching tv. If we do go out without baby, we don’t have anything to talk about really. I know that life is stressful for him between his dad’s medical issues, under-appreciation at work, and having a daughter to love, but I’m starting to feel differently. I used to be able to see myself saying “yes,” but now, if he were to propose (and I don’t think he will until we are in a good place financially, if ever), I don’t know if I’d accept. Is it just me? How do I fix this? He’s my first serious relationship, and I love him to death, but I also need to feel like he wants to be with me.
Is the problem him wanting to be with you, or YOU wanting to be with HIM…
Sounds like he’s lost that lovin feeling
You can’t make him care.
Sounds like YOU need to get your ducks in a row and figure out what YOU want. You have to make those decisions and based off this post you dont feel that connection and need to move on or talk it out especially with a child in the situation
Maybe you’re growing apart? It happens, but no one here can read his mind. You have to sit down and actually have a serious conversation about how the both of you see your future together. You share a child, so this whole financially stable thing is just getting me here, either you two want to be together or you don’t. There are struggles financially in any relationship, you can be fine one year then the next have it ripped away from you, but the biggest support you should have would be each other.
Honeymoon stage is over sadly. Now the work part begins. The true part. The love part.
Talk to him, make sure he’s still in it, then start working at it.
It’s getting to know each other at THIS level. You all weren’t parents before. It’s learning each other at ever stage and refalling in love with that new person at every stage you both grow thru.
Relationships are a full time job…and if both sides aren’t working at it…it’ll never flurish.
So y’all both gotta sit down, talk and figure out what’s next. Staying silent and unhappy solves nothing.
First step to solving this problem… stop asking Facebook for advice and talk to your boyfriend. None of us know him or you enough to give proper advice. We can’t get inside of his head. He’s the person you should be asking.
Sounds like she dont want to be with him actually.
Always trust your instincts is best advice
First things first girl dont over stress it guys have a tendency to not pay attention to a women’s needs overtime, they forget how to treat a woman because you’ve been with him for soo long… So sit with him explain how you feel make sure you guys are on the same page it sounds to me like you just crave more attention & affection & THATS OKAY!
Dump him he is just useing you
Look the next guy over be for you
Get with him
Are you both working? Maybe a small apartment together? Have a serious talk with him about your future together. Being financial set could go on forever. Sometimes people grow apart, sounds like that might be the case. Maybe don’t go weekends for a while? Sort your feelings out.
Why do women think they need a man… I’ve been single almost 11 yrs and enjoy it…
Take the kid… File custody/child support papers and move on…
Why don’t y’all talk to each other before asking advice so you can ask with both options available?
Relationships arnt always rainbows and butterflies, fun and games. There is down time. There is boring time. Theres also annoying time. You just need to know if hes the one you want you want to spend you’re life with even on the boring uneventful days.
I would agree with most of the other responses. Talk to him, find out where you both stand, and if you both are committed to working on any issues. I would do this before you commit to living together, as that will be harder to change. Relationships are not all romance, and it’s about seeing each other’s worst and still wanting to stand next to them.
Don’t get pregnant again.
Find someone who’s happy to be with you.
Relationships take work from both sides. If neither of you r willing to fight to be together then there really is no point. Be up front, communicate, and tell him how u feel. Good luck!!