I feel like my boyfriend never listens to me: Thoughts?

I just need to vent. I constantly feel like I am never listened to. I’m not taken seriously, and I don’t mean anything to anyone. Tonight has just topped it all off. My boyfriend and I just had a baby almost two months ago. He doesn’t work, and I go back to work in about a week. I have a good-paying job, so we both don’t need to work, and he can stay at home and take care of our son. However, he hasn’t done anything to help me. All he does is drink, smoke, and play video games. He stays up half the night, and I let him sleep during the day. I don’t see the point in fighting and hoped he would try to turn things around. Then he is always offering to help others. Tonight I got fed up with it. I got our son laid down to sleep and told him and asked him several times to please go to sleep with us. Instead, he decided to say that I should just go to sleep. Unfortunately, our whole house sucks for noise, so at his level of intoxication, he talks so much louder, and I can’t sleep that way. I was livid. I just want to sleep and asked for this one night. He basically said no. I told him that he has an option to either start treating us like we matter, or he can just leave after Christmas. He chose to drink over the family. It breaks my heart, but I should have known. He has an older child with another woman, and he will skip out on seeing him just to drink with his friends. He is the only one who can watch our son. I work long hours on swing shift, and we live out in a rural area. I just don’t trust him anymore. He doesn’t take us seriously. I don’t have anyone else I can talk to about this. No one else seems to see it as a problem.

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Get rid of him he’s an alcoholic

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I didn’t even finish reading this and can tell you to kick him to the curb if he wants to try he will on his own! In the meantime take care if you and the baby.

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Why would you have a child with a dead beat? I mean he was clearly like this before you had your child, he wasn’t taking care of his first child and now he gets to freeload on you. What are you thinking ?:thinking:

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You can be the one to make changes! Seems he has a lot of growing as a man to do! Seems you know the answer to your question Do what is good for your heart and son!

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I would advise you to dump the bum…you and your baby will never be happy with that going on…good luck !!

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He is not going to change. Are you willing to live like that?

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If you have a good paying job you can afford child care. If you stay in this relationship you WILL BE TEACHING YOUR SON HOW WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE TREATED. Don’t think bad for kicking his drunk ass out. He will find a place. Please if not for yourself for your son…get rid of the bum.

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How could you trust him with a baby? Get rid of him.

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Dump him quick or you will be raising two boys instead of one.

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She dont have a boyfriend she has a second dependent aka a roommate…girl run :running_man:

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17 years with mine and rarely does he listen. Put up of piss off :wink:

Oh my it’s a problem he doesn’t work doesn’t help out you don’t need him hun that’s not a relationship by no means . He has a free ride and you need to put the breaks on cause he is doing you more harm than good ! Take time to really analyze the situation and make the best choose for yourself and your child !!

I’d say let him leave, i know it hard and you feel like you need him to watch your child, but obviously he doesn’t respect or love you enough to put you and the baby first . Maybe try moving into the city where you can find a suitable daycare , or maybe find a live in relative or someone who is probably down on their luck and may need a place to stay someone trust worthy, they can be a better caregiver than you have now, and there is no emotional attachment . Obviously this man only thinks of himself and is selfish. Your child doesn’t deserve to see this and you deserved to be loved and care for as well, emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse… Living alone is much better than living with someone like that …

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I would never stay with someone who chose alcohol, drugs or somebody else over their child(ren) whether they were also my kids or not.

Take your child and never look back! You CAN do this on your own. He will never change. I’m so sorry but you gotta go girl! And seriously…do you want an alcoholic watching your child??? he doesn’t help now, what do you think he’s going to do when you’re at work? I’m not implying that he’s going to do harm, I’m just asking you… You know in your heart what you need to do!

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You will be fine on your own. Would you even trust your precious baby with him if he is intoxicated

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He sounds very immature. I’m so sorry. I think you will be better off without him and that someone who will be more considerate to your needs with show up at some point and replace him. I was in a similar situation where my needs were not met. I left the situation and have to say life got a lot better. I have found someone who matches my needs and respects me😌 Good luck to you

He is a loser. You should have dumped his ass long ago.

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He has shown you he isn’t a man you want to be with, he shows no respect to his other family, and looks like you are waiting for him to change when he refuses to. File for child support, and kick him to the curb.

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