I feel like my ex put effort into how our daughters looked in his family photos: Advice?

My ex-husband recently got professional photos taken with our two daughters, his girlfriend, and her daughter. When I saw the outcome of the photos that the photographer had posted on her website, I was saddened and honestly embarrassed to see how disheveled my girls looked. They are adorable three and 5-year-olds, but their hair was a mess as if they’d just rolled out of bed. They were also wearing clothing that looked like it was two sizes too big on them (he told me they were buying them special outfits for the photos.) I guess my question is, do I say something to my ex? I don’t know if I should just leave it alone (and hope he doesn’t give me a picture haha) or mention how I feel. I just want whoever is in my children’s lives to treat them like they’d treat their own children and it frustrates me because it comes off as if both he and his girlfriend didn’t seem to care enough with how they looked even though they were spending good money for photos.

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I would leave it alone. Though is does make me wonder why the girlfriend didn’t help him out a little bit if its their family photos…

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Just go get your own pictures, dictate how you want. Personally, I comb my 8 year olds hair. And not even 5 minutes later, it’s a birds nest.

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I’d honestly just leave it alone, but If he asked what you you thought I’d give him your honest opinion on the matter. Theres a difference between starting shit, and giving an honest opinion when asked.

I would bring it up.
Who did the hair?
Dad - good try
Girlfriend - maybe felt like she was overstepping
Sounds like these people are going to be in your life for a while, may be a good idea to initiate positive communication :woman_shrugging:t2:

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No. They tried. Let them be

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Just let it be, I’m sure you’ll have bigger problems in the future about co parenting. It’s not worth the stress. Get your own pictures done then give one to him

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None of your business, you didn’t pay for them, so don’t worry about it

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Its their photos. Let it go. Pick your battles and this one isn’t it

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Def let them be. They’re spending the money on the pictures. Kiddos could’ve fell asleep in the car or was playing before hand

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You didn’t pay for the pictures why do you care?

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Maybe they liked them🤷‍♀️

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Leave it alone. That’s his time, his pictures for his home. He didn’t show the pics to you, you found them online, he wasn’t asking for any opinions. He took a family photo and it doesn’t need to be dissected by his ex. Maybe they bought the clothes online and they were too big but had no time to return and exchange the clothes, but in the end its really none of your business.

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Leave it alone. He made the effort to get professional photos done with his family. He doesn’t need your approval. When you get professional photos done then you can be critical of how the children look.

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If it’s not endangering them, leave it alone.

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You don’t have to look at the every day they do. Not your problem to worry about

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Stop micro managing sis!!

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Pick your battles remember if you have a million small issues the big ones won’t matter!

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Leave it alone. It isnt your place or family pictures🤷‍♀️

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Some of these peoples remarks are rude as hell, girl if you feel they were done this way on purpose just ask him why? If everyone in the photo looked presentable but my babies didn’t I’d want to know as well.

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