I feel like my husband never wants to do anything with us unless it's his idea: Advice?

Ok, so this really bothers me my husband won’t do ANYTHING with me and our 3kids unless it’s something he wants to do! His reason they don’t listen! Which are sometimes true… I recently asked him to go bowling with the kids he said no bc all they will do is fight… But anytime his family invites us to go do something he is all for it… I guess my question is wat should I do?

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Tell him to quit being a baby.- they’re his kids too! Sometimes as a parent you have to do stuff you don’t want to do :woman_shrugging:t2:

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My ex husband was like that and that’s one of the reasons why he is an ex. He NEVER wanted to be a part of any memories or ideas that I had for the kids… Zoo, park, aquarium, trampoline park, picnic, etc. but he would only want to go do what he wanted to do. So I never took him because he always brought the mood down and just made it so uncomfortable and awkward, so the kids and I went and we made our memories on our own. He didn’t figure it out until a few months after I left him that he was missing out on those memories of the kids and us as a family.

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Do things without him then. He’ll realize that they CAN go out. He needs to understand that kids are going to be kids, and how can he expect them to know how to behave if they never do it to learn…

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Get an idea hard. Have him put his in it too. But that’s a bummer …

If you have a family member or friend, go with them. I’d just go without him. :woman_shrugging:t2:

Unpopular opinion alert: it may really be because its not fun and kids act better around other people

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Leave him with the kids and take a vacation!

Make him think its his idea works with my hubby

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Trade him in for a good husband and father.

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Go without him? If he doesn’t wanna make memories with his kids that’s his problem

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Put him on a sticker chart. Everytime he participates, he gets a sticker. Jk lol good luck tho

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Take them without him make memories and come home smiling with happy children and maybe it will guilt his inflated ego to thinking if she can do it on her own then it will be an easy ride :woman_shrugging:

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Have a nice day with your kids.:grinning::grinning:

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Continue making memories with the kids with or without him!!!

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screw him and go enjoy your kiddos my ex was like that hence why after a long time he finally became an ex wish i had years sooner !!

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You “do” you.
Let him “do” him.

When the kids are grown, he’ll want to do stuff with them, and they won’t have the time for him.

Cats in the cradle.

Relationships are not built solely on being related. You have to invest time and energy to get the relationship you want with family members.

So you go, be supportive, make memories with your children. Don’t allow his indifference to negatively impact the relationship you are building with your children. Let him know how you feel, and let him know what he’s missing out on.

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This is my son’s dad. I used to beg him to do things with me and our son, but didn’t want to and still won’t to this day. We just go and do our own thing and make our own memories

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I’d plan a mini getaway just for the kids and yourself and when he says something about coming along too just say “Well I assumed you wouldn’t want to come since the kids might misbehave so I didnt plan on you joining us sorry shrugs”. Then go and have an amazing time without him! Sucks to suck!

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Kids are only little once. Laugh loudly make memories. Take pictures I wouldnt even invite him anymore I would just go and come back happy you did things with your kids he will start feeling left out and say well I stopped inviting you because you never said yes good luck best wishes to you and your family

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