I feel like my marriage is over: What should I do?

I feel like my marriage is over. My husband has worked out of town pretty much the whole time we’ve been together. I did and raised my kids pretty much on my own, and they are adults now. He still works away, and I’ve never felt more alone. The past year he’s more distant, has changed his password on his phone, calls less. I feel like there’s a stranger in my house when he does come home. When he is here, he’s on his phone constantly; he never wants to have serious conversations about our relationship. I try to tell him how I feel, and his response is I’m sorry, that’s it. I get he’s tired, but honestly, I’m done trying to fix something that apparently only I see a problem with.

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Sounds like it’s time for divorce.

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He’s cheating from the sound of it.

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He’s having an affair…get out. You’re miserable anyways

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Don’t invest anymore time or energy into someone who won’t do the same for you.

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Take it into your own hands and find that peace. If that’s what your gut is telling you, following it and you just might be much happier. :heart:

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Dont allow yourself to be unhappy or feel cheated out of happiness. Sometimes you have to do what is best for you. He apparently is not giving his best to you. Dont waste anymore time. Be happy. Best wishes to you

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He probably had a whole ass family somewhere else. You have said you tried. What else is there to do? Next time he leaves for work ask him to not come back. Be happy!

If your kids are bout of the house, tell your husband you want to go with him on his next trip, if he says no or hesitates, get a lawyer

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Same!!! I feel completely the same… except im the one who works and comes home and he wants nothing to do with me at all unless its to benefit his needs. I hate feeling this way but i wanna try making our marriage work

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Sounds like an affair to me. I hate to put it so bluntly, but all the signs are there.

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If possible, maybe go on the road with him? Your kids are grown right? Take the chance to see the “world”. I mean he can’t be on his phone while driving right? Say fuck it and try something new and spontaneous with him! If trying that doesn’t workout for you then unfortunately you know what your next move is… Good luck💙

You will meet someone who will appreciate you and communicates with you. Someone that will make you happy.

I wouldn’t be quick to jump to the conclusion that he’s cheating right away, I’m not saying don’t question it but also take into consideration that you have both lived separate lives basically with him working out of town. This does happen people who are married do get used to being alone and it might be that y’all have nothing to talk about anymore. Not that there isn’t love but when you’ve been apart everyday it does happen that people are used to being alone and when y’all are together there’s nothing to talk about or do together because y’all aren’t used to doing it everyday. I’m not saying to assume everything is fine because it clearly isn’t. But give that some thought because I would like to think that if it was that maybe y’all could fix that instead of just throwing it away

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He is comfortable with the way things are. It works for him so he can’t understand why it doesn’t work for you. Do what you need to do to be happy.

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Changes the password on his phone should have been the first red flag. If he had nothing to hide he wouldn’t change it. It sounds like he’s cheating. Don’t waste time in life you don’t get that time back. Leave and be happy

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Well if the kids are out can you take a couple days and follow him with out him knowing see what he does where he gos when not at work

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sorry but u know trust ur instinct…cause all u said was a clues that ur husband is having an affair…its really hurt but u must confront him and accept what he said to u or not…and if u both didnt work out anymore?u must get out of it…

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Even if he’s being faithful… I don’t think either of you are happy. How do you want to live?

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Don’t cross oceans for people who won’t jump over a puddle for you.

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