I feel my sons pre-school is trying to push too much on him: Advice?

I’m a first-time mom, and my son is three he started pre k this year and is the youngest in his class. He’s very smart and learns quickly, but the school sent home a paper stating that they want our kids to know what a fire escape route is and how to use it and to learn the pledge of allegiance. I have no issues what so ever with this, but I feel that this is asking a lot out of 3 and 4 years old, and I don’t know how to go about helping my son learn this for school. Are any other parents concerned with how much schools are pushing on to our children all at once in pre k? Side note: he goes to school from 8 am-2 pm Monday-Friday just like the bigger schools. When I was in pre k, it was four days a week for 3 hours.

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My five year old has to memorize a bible verse a week for school. What we do to accomplish that is break it down into sections and go over in the morning, in the car and in the evening. She normally has it down by Wednesday. I would suggest that for memorizing the pledge.

You should read about how to break down stuff that is hard to remember and do it everyday and he will get use to it.

You could try making it into a song so he can learn it a little bit easier. Make it fun, so he won’t get bored or feel like you’re torturing him trying to make him memorize all those words lol. Teaching him the fire escape route at home would also be helpful. It’s definitely good for him to know that. That’s something you can definitely go over with him, and practice every so often just to make sure he knows what to do if ever anything does happen. It’s not as stressful as you’re thinking it’s going to be. Relax. You got this.

Schools are a much faster pace now than what they used to be. Kids leaving Kindergarten having to read 26 site words and write simple sentences. Gone are the days of finger paints and nap time. For teaching him the pledge, just say it with him over and over… the same way they learn all those annoying songs. The Fire escape plan is necessary at soon as they can walk and understand safety. Just talked to him about what he should do and where he needs to go incase of a fire. To many kids that age have died because they hide out of fear.

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As far as the fire escape plan absolutely every child should know basic safety and how to get out of the house safely and a safe meeting place. As far as the pledge of allegiance that will come in time they say it every day he’ll just be able to remember it one day without even thinking twice about it

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We had a similar issue. My daughter hated it, they deemed her a “problem child” I have a son in kinder and they were giving her homework in vpk that he couldn’t even do. So we switched her and it’s much better and appropriate! She enjoys school now and isnt a problem child.

That is alot of school for a 3 year old… i hope its play based… usually here at 3 unless its daycare kids go 2 days or 3 for 3 hours.

Good grief… Are they intending to run out of the building and leave him to figure it out on his own if there’s a fire? That does sound like a lot for a 3 year old to firmly grasp. I get teaching about smelling smoke, seeing smoke get on the floor, touching doors before opening etc. But how is a 3 year old supposed to navigate escape routes and contingency plans?

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It’s amazing how much kids can pick up in a short time.
Honestly, the evacuation route is important though. My kids are 13 and 15 and I still ask them periodically “what would you do if…”
When they were little it was factual discussion, trying not to scare them.

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It also may help if the local fire department comes with one of their trucks and some fire fighters to help explain fire safety. It will be more memorable and maybe they can teach it in a way all the kids can understand… Like the buddy system stuff!

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Do the pledge of allegiance every morning. He’ll pick up on it. I never had to deal with the fire escape plan thing. But i do think its a good thing to learn.

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My 3 year old memorized an entire Lizzo song :joy::joy: give your kid more credit!

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That is definitely NOT too hard on a 3/4 year old!

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Uh…I’m sure he will catch on. I remember having to do that in prek. Give him more credit than that. :neutral_face::expressionless:

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The pledge and a fire drill aren’t exactly astrophysics. Kids can memorize anything with repetition. Most know the ABC song at this age and that’s longer than the pledge.

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All of that is reasonable. All schools say the Pledge. He will eventually learn it. Fire safety is important. Our fire safety plan is if there’s a bad fire inside the house, get outside and we all meet in the driveway.

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I had a special needs preschool route. They can learn a lot more than we give them credit for. They were telling me how many buses were at the school, if some left, they would do the subtraction, and tell me how many were left. I taught them left and right sides, by the turns on my route. Your kid can learn. Believe. They are little sponges

For a fire plan keep it simple. Just say “mommy wants to teach you about fires. They are dangerous and very hot, you never ever touch. If you ever see a fire you need to get down and crawl, and go to ___ door” and then I guarantee he will probably ask you a million times about it, he will learn lol my daughter prompted me with a fire escape plan without me ever mentioning it. For the pledge, make it a little jingle and repeat repeat repeat

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The fire escape route can just be done daily til they get it. The other stuff is typical…