I feel uncomfortable around a co worker that constantly flirts with me: Advice?

I’ve recently transferred to a new department in my job. One of my coworkers is very flirty and often teases/jokes around and is overly-affectionate (never physically, only compliments and things like that). I have a boyfriend, and we have been in a committed relationship for a little over three years. We have a beautiful five-month-old daughter, and I love him with my whole heart. My issue is that I don’t feel uncomfortable with this coworker. He is relatively attractive and very kind. I would never entertain anything with him, and he has never made any physical advances. We don’t even have each other’s numbers or social media; it’s just nice to know that others still find me attractive. It’s nice to know I am still desirable to others beyond my boyfriend. I would never even dream of leaving him or cheating on him – he is too good to me – I just feel guilty for enjoying this attention. Have any of you ever experienced something like this? Should I feel guilty for not being uncomfortable with this behavior? Should I tell my boyfriend about this or keep it to myself?

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Be a bitch… simple.

Your question is that you feel uncomfortable and than your last question says your not uncomfortable :face_with_raised_eyebrow:

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I’m so confused? First says, I’m uncomfortable… then later says you enjoy it and feel guilty???

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Just keep it to yourself and enjoy the attention! Nothing wrong with it as long as there’s no Ill intentions or hidden agendas.

Yes tell him. You’re completely abnormal and should feel very guilty.

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Sounds like you are ACTIVELY thinking about cheating on your partner for this coworker. But nice try lying :rofl: hope your boyfriend leaves your nasty ass

I’m confused. Are you uncomfortable or you like the attention?

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You should be uncomfortable with yourself for feeling this way if you love him so much you would enjoy the attention. :woman_shrugging:

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Would you want your boyfriend to entertain it or tell you if he was in the same situation?

You gotta find out where your line is drawn.

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Stop, unless you plan on telling your boyfriend. Anything you have to hide from him is a form a cheating. He deserves better

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I think you should ask yourself how you would feel if your boyfriend wrote this about his coworker and move forward accordingly.

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Sorry but this is always the first step in pre cheating. You find him attractive and like the attention what u gonna do if he actually makes it physical are you gonna just let him?

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If the shoe was on the other foot, what would you want you boyfriend to do out of respect to your relationship??

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After a while in a relationship we tend to take the other person for granted. We stop complimenting each other. It isn’t wrong to feel flattered by your co-workers comments. I would suggest sitting down and having a chat about it to your boyfriend/partner tho. Even if you just say what you have said in the original post.

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You’re saying you would never cheat but honestly you already are. You don’t have to have sex to cheat. 🤷

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So your uncomfortable about not feeling uncomfortable about his attention towards you?

Does your coworker know you have a boyfriend? Does he know that he has no chance what so ever? How would you feel if your man allowed another women to flirt and enjoyed the attention and didn’t tell her to stop? A committed relationship means you do not allow others to flirt so it doesn’t seem like you’re in one at all. Also you said at the start that you’re uncomfortable but then said you like it? For someone who loves their man you don’t really respect him much if you allow another man to flirt all the time. Even if it isn’t physical means nothing. If he did it once not knowing you were in a relationship and you liked it but told him it wasn’t appropriate them that’s fine. Allowing it to continue is not, it makes you sound like a bit of an attention whore, mind my language. Tell your coworker to stop unless you’re ok with your man getting this attention from another women who is attractive

Take the compliment and move on
Just because he’s being polite doesn’t mean he wants to bang your over the desk!

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Well if you are entertaining the flirtations I personally feel that you’ve already overstepped a boundary. If it were MY relationship I’d be very upset by this. I guess it depends on your situation with your bf, but I think you’re asking for trouble. I wouldn’t say you should feel guilty but you shouldn’t allow this behavior even though you like it. But that is just my opinion based on my relationship

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