I found messages on my partners phone of him talking to a girl on whatsapp: Thoughts?

I found a picture on my partner’s phone it was a screenshot of WhatsApp it had a girl he had been talking too on it I then found a picture of her fake nails on his pictures. He was deleting his messages to her but forgot too clear these from the autosave. When I asked, he wouldn’t tell me much but tried to back up messages from them; it only backed up three messages that were obvious they were talking regularly. He claimed they only said a few words, but they had talked for over two and a half weeks. I asked him if I could message her and ask for her word on it, which he reluctantly agreed, I was polite. She sent a contradictive message that they weren’t talking sexual just that he said we were broken up. Before that, I accidentally called her; she sent messages saying, “why are you available and then not” with love hearts, etc. I’m back with him, but I’m pregnant so super emotional, what does everything think innocent or not? He often lies that has been proved lies, but he’s adamant he didn’t cheat. I also found he had muted her WhatsApp convo later on and deleted their text messages after he asked her to send screenshots of the messages.

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He’s cheating. You either stay and know that he is pretty much scum, or start the healing process and move on. Baby or not.

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He’s obviously cheating

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Whether he cheated or not, trust is broken.

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How many times do you think he’s been doing this and you haven’t caught on to it? Prob alot. Either leave his ass or get used to be cheated on repeatedly

He told her that you and he were broken up… he’s deleting messages… he fucked up.

Being a single parent is easier than living in hell

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Talking is cheating, deleting messages is cheating, admitting he did talk to her is cheating.

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Whether he’s been physical with her or not, I’d consider this cheating

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Run away. It happened to me. I stayed and I cried my whole pregnancy every single day. Don’t do this to yourself and the baby , I say this to you cause I cried and suffered way too much trying to lie to myself, trust your guts. I didn’t trust mines and ended up truly hurt by a man who cheated and lied to me and didn’t care about the damage he caused on me. Run away and find someone better. Please!

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Obviously there is something between them. It’s up to you to figure how you feel about it. Ask him if he is agree to put a end on it for good. You have to ask yourself if you can deal with it or not.

Easy… get another random girl to message and talk to him lightly over a few weeks span. Get the screen shots and throw it in his face. Meanwhile that’s going on figure out am exit strategy. Hit him where it hurts. He clearly is a liar and you are looking for good reason to move forward.

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Everything is so wrong about this. The bottom line is that he doesn’t seem committed to you. If you want your relationship to last he needs to apologize and cut it out (messaging others in secret) or he needs to go. You don’t deserve that behavior, pregnant or not! Good luck!

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I wouldnt even bother trying to figure out what he wants. Let him do that himself. If you can, go stay with family or even a friend for the time being. His actions will tell you what he wants.
He broke the trust you had for him. That is hella fcking hard to deal with, especially being pregnant. For the time being just focus on you and the pregnancy. Let him figure his sht out.

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Girl he is CHEATING. You already said he’s a liar so you are right not to believe him. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Get out & save yourself years of heartache.

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If she is sending him pictures and comfortable talking to him daily, then HE is the one leaving that door WIIIDE open. He could’ve slammed it in her face and never touched it again, but he didn’t.

Leave, he won’t change, I KNOW. A million lies, 2 kids, and 22 years later it never changed. My only consolation is my 2 amazing kids. You have time

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If he feels he has to delete the combos I would be worried to

You have proof he’s lying… What do you want us to tell you!? You have two choices, stay and deal with/try to make it work or LEAVE and move on.

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