I found my little sister on facebook and want to contact her: Advice?

I would countack her parents first

So long as you’re not doing anything underhanded, reach out to her parents. They’ll likely be okay with siblings reconnecting. Just thank them for raising and loving her and ask if you could reach out, maybe suggest speaker phone so they can be involved too. And I would just avoid the subject of her being taken unless she brings it up, but keep details vague until she’s older.

I would contact the parents and explain that you in no way want her to hurt and if its ok could you reach out to her or have them reach out to her. If not could they let you know she is safe and loved.

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Connect to her plz she needs family

You should go through her parents. She’s been through a lot and as u pointed out she’s loved and well cared for. Her parents will make a correct decision regarding her well being

Talk to the state first they usually have a program to introduce siblings I think

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As an adoptive parent, I would recommend reaching out to the parents. My daughters bio brother contacted me in the earlier years asking to contact her. I allowed it, after talking with daughter and making sure she was ok with it and on her terms.

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I personally would contact her parents first

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Contact the parents. First and explain who you are and why you wanna talk with your sister most are willing to let siblings back in there lives but your mom won’t be allowed contact

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No 11 yr old should be on FB, But I am glad you found her. But I will agree with the other, contact her adoptive parents & explain everything to them

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You should definitely reach out to parents first. Do you still have contact with mother who lost yall or her?

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She’s a minor. If you really want to talk to her you need to contact her adoptive parents first. DONT GO TO YOUR SISTER UNTIL YOU HAVE DISCUSSED IT WITH HER PARENTS FIRST! I’m adopted. While my parents are cool with the hole adoption thing and we’re open and honest about it with me and my siblings, hers may not be. She may not even know she’s adopted. She may not know you exist. Her parents may not have told her. Telling her can cause so many problems honestly. It isn’t worth it to jump straight to her. Go to her parents and see what they want to do about it. It’s not worth tearing an entire family apart just to end up never talking to her anyway. Go to her adoptive parents please. They can decide if it’s ok or not to contact her and how they will go about it before you say anything at all.

RESPECT WHATEVER DECISION THEY COME TOO ALSO. DO NOT GO AGAINST THEIR WISHES IF THEY DONT WANT YOU TO TALK TO HER. RESPECT THEIR FAMILY AS A SEPARATE UNIT FROM YOUR LIFE.

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Go through the adoptive parents. It’s the respectful thing to do, especially with her being so young. She’s 11, she’s going to need the emotional support of her team to help her with this.

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I’d reach out to the parents first and respect their wishes, ask if it’s ok and you’ll understand if they say not right now.
GOD BLESS YOU

I would go through the adoptive parents first! especially because she is so young

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yes, talk to the state. they will contact the parents and it will b easier for both of u cz they will guide u how to reconnect.

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Do happy for you both. Just do the right thing for both of you. Pray on it he help you do the right thing.

Reach out to her parents first, explain that you only want what’s best for her but you also miss her, and had nothing to do with the reason she was removed, if they want you to wait a few years, respect that and reach out again when shes a bit older.

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I went through this SAME thing, but finding my sister was harder
I’m bawling reading this as it brought up so many emotions for me…
Talk to the adoptive parent, shes still under age and it’s a respect type of thing, since you don’t know what she remembers or of she has trauma from the past it’s the only correct thing to do, if they don’t let you talk to her just understand it’s out of safety for her…
My search ended with me not being able to talk to my sister and she’s also disabled from my mother’s drug use :sob:
Good luck and feel totally free to contact me, your not alone!!

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As an adoptive mom- reach out to mom and not the child. The child shouldn’t even be on FB.

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