I found out I have an STD and think my husband has had an affair: Thoughts?

Hi ladies. I am really struggling. My husband and I have been together for a while now. We have a six-year-old and a 19-month-old and a 3rd kiddo on the way. We want four children, so we are ecstatic. I went to my first ultrasound and Drs appointment. We are ten weeks today. I got a call from the nurse to tell me my chlamydia came back positive. And I fell to the floor crying. I called my husband to confront him, and he said: “he’s never been with anyone but me.” But we clearly know that is a lie. He will not come forward with the truth, and I am absolutely mad and embarrassed. What do I do now? Dumb question, I know. But it clearly did not come from me. I want to leave, but we have two kids, and I live 70 miles from my family and friends. Help Hi ladies. I am really struggling. My husband and I have been together for a while now. We have a 6-year-old and a 19-month-old and a 3rd kiddo on the way. We want four children, so we are ecstatic. I went to my first ultrasound and Drs appointment. We are ten weeks today. I got a call from the nurse to tell me my chlamydia came back positive. And I fell to the floor crying. I called my husband to confront him, and he said: “he’s never been with anyone but me.” But we clearly know that is a lie. He will not come forward with the truth, and I am absolutely mad and embarrassed. What do I do now? Dumb question, I know. But it clearly did not come from me. I want to leave, but we have two kids, and I live 70 miles from my family and friends. Help

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He clearly has stuck it somewhere

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Ask your family and friends to help you move back. If he won’t even admit it then what’s the point?

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He’s clearly cheated… If you’ve beeb faithful, an std can’t just appear from nothing. … Dump his ass

Trial separation? Until someone can prove to me that they have the integrity to admit when they fuck up I dont want to be around them

Lies continue when you accept and tolerate them.
I feel for you and I am Praying you through this :pray:t2::heart:

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You get a test when pregnant so be after

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Tell him until you get the answers to why you got chlamydia he has to leave

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Sometimes there can be false positive results. Also this is a true story one of my friends labs were mixed up. I’d get re-tested just to be sure.

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Wow that’s hard… Fuckin men in praying you find comfort and answers

Honey you have to leave unfortunately not only did he put you at risk he put your unborn . One thing he cheat and to cheat unprotected … unless you cheated or the results are wrong he cheated z I’m sorry I know that tough and it hurt But it could be something he give you that’s you can’t cure and what about your babies

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If you love him and he told the truth you could work on it but I always think once they cheat they’ll do it again and he has no respect for you

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Ask your family and friends for support if theres any they can help you, get out of that relationship asap

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Have him get tested!!! N if hes postitive he cheated!! N thsts messed up it’s dangerous ur pregnant n why wud he have unprotected sex… putting ur life in danger n ur kids… AIDS is not curable

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Probably when you was pregnant men get lonely and spit the dummy

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Honey it doesn’t matter if he admits it. He clearly didn’t care about putting your life or your unborn childs life at risk by having unprotected sex with someone else. 70 miles isn’t forever, pack up and go. You’ve got all the proof you need.

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Don’t ever stay just because you have kids! If he won’t admit it or if he does admit it but you feel you c at forgive him then gets yourself together and leave! Move closer to family if you have to.

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Have them do a re-test. Maybe there was some sort of mix-up, it happens. If that one comes back positive, then at least you’ll know 100% that he’s lying.

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Hed have to tell that person n if their is more than one he has to tell them this is serious

Don’t let him waste any more of your time he’ll regret it but dont give in move on by yourself with your kids

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