I found out I was pregnant and my relationship ended: Advice?

I recently found out that I am pregnant (my first child is 5) my boyfriend and I recently broke up also. Since I told him he’d been completely making how I feel invalid. I was saying how this couldn’t have happened at the worst time. I get it isn’t the perfect time. But it’s such a blessing. Also, I can’t get him to even see me since I found out and I feel so alone. I have no idea what to do

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Girl do you, be a better you. Give that baby more loves than he could ever imagine…

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I’m so sorry this is hard. It absolutely is a blessing. You may just be in this on your own, so be ready for that. Good luck mamma :heart:

So sorry! Get together with ur family and girlfriends!

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Just because you love your baby doesn’t mean he will feel the same. Give him time maybe he will come around. Worry about you and baby that is most important. And your 5 year old of course

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Im doing the single and pregnant thing. I gave him months to grow up and show some interest and at times he did but he also just couldn’t stop some of the nonsense that was costing me peace and joy. Im 10 weeks from due with this little girl and its best he just stay gone.

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I think you should consider getting some legal advice

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Keep up with all the text messages of him saying that and if you’re able, record him. Take it to a lawyer, and they’ll take his rights away. And I understand some people have this stigma with government benefits, but it’s a great assistance program. Plus, he’ll be required to pay child support. Find other support outlets. He is just showing he doesn’t want to be there, and you shouldn’t try forcing him to do so. Find a friend or family member to support you, but don’t reach out to him or his family anymore. You got this!!

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My ex left me with my 11 month old and unknowingly 1 month pregnant, didn’t find out until I was 24 weeks. I we t threw it alone and raising both my girls aged almost 2 and 5 month on my own and honestly? I love it. Our bond is absolutely amazing. I’m so much more closed to my children. Some days are hard and some days are lonely but wouldn’t change a thing

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As hard as it is- enjoy what you have going for you; the new baby on the way and your 5 yr old. The future is wide open- possibilities are endless! Picture the best version of what you want for yourself (and your kids) in 5 years and then go for it.
You should find out what will make YOU happy. As far as I know we get one life​:yellow_heart::yellow_heart::yellow_heart:

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Hit him in the pocket

First off, congrats. Secondly, you can’t use a pregnancy/child to get him to see or talk to you. You broke up for a reason, I’m assuming and I’m sure those reasons are making him not want to see or talk to you. And dont listen to some of these butt hurt ass women, just because he doesnt want to have a relationship with you doesnt mean he doesn’t care about his child or will make for a bad father. He can be excited/happy without telling you or expressing it to you. You’re not together anymore so he doesnt need to consult with you or Express any feelings to you, whatsoever. And if you try to take his rights away like some of these women are saying, you’ll just be a shitty ass person that’s being petty bc he doesnt want to talk to you lol

Not much to do. If you choose to keep the baby then take in the fact that he may or may not be there. Try to see the bright side of it all and that’s a precious baby :heart: and I’m sure your oldest would be excited to help with the baby. Break ups aren’t easy especially with babies in tow but you are strong enough to do this :heart:

Better to struggle and do it on your own then taking some one along for the ride that does not want to be there

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He doesn’t have to parent. He may pay support but you can’t make him love or want a child. Tough, but a lesson I learned.

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Make the decision 100 percent on your own- do what you want with the expectation you won’t see him again

I’m pregnant with our second and he’s no where , girl ! I’m in the same boat, but you can’t force someone to be there if they don’t want to, so I picked myself up and doing what’s best for my kids, and his POS ass doesn’t get to come around when it’s convenient for him. You CAN and WILL get through this. It gets lonely but I rather take this loneliness then feel invalid and constantly be put down :heart:

I would be happy raising kids alone…men suck and had two exs that just got up and walked away without looking back. In the end i was better off without them and raising them on my own. Now that they are going through it… they are strong and able to know they can to

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I’m sorry this is hard. My advice is to put you and your babies first. Surround yourself with family and friends who love you :sparkling_heart:

Yep…pregnant with twins and dude wants nothing to do with me or the babies. We are better off without him in my opinion and his loss…

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