I found out my boyfriend cheated and don't know if I should move in with him: Advice?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years. We do not have any kids together but he is very close with my daughter. We were getting ready to move in with each other, but I recently found out that he cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship and since then has still been on dating apps here and there and sending inappropriate pictures of himself to other people. I only have evidence of physical cheating a year and a half ago, but the apps are still recent. Now, I will say that recently even before I found out, he cheated he was making a lot of changes. He has been more affectionate and showing his love towards me. I know people can change, and he isn’t the same person he was a year and a half ago, but I can’t shake this feeling of betrayal and hurt because I’ve always been faithful and committed to him. Obviously, there is so much more to the story, and it’s hard to fit it all in but out of the two years, our relationship hasn’t been the greatest, and I am just now seeing his commitment towards me. I am just unsure I can move on and continue living with him, knowing that I don’t trust him. He says he will prove to me that I can trust him, but I have so much damage and pain from this and being cheated on in every relationship that I am not sure I can let my walls down again. Any advice would be helpful. I just don’t know what to do. I also want to add that he did not come out and tell me about the cheating; I had to find out on my own, so it’s not like he decided to be honest with me until after I already knew.

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Honestly the trust was already broken. I think you should cut your losses.

Ask yourself ‘what advice would I give my daughter if this was happening to her’ and she had a young daughter as well…there’s your answer.

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If you can’t trust him don’t move in with him! Trust is what makes a relationship!

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You deserve better. You’ll never trust him so why sta

You deserve a relationship with no doubts

I don’t condone and cheating…it’s a no in my opinion

What we allow, will continue.
If you forgive, he will do it again

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Why is this even a question? Stop letting people walk all over you. Go get a check up who knows what he is out there doing

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Why would you even need to ask?

If he cheated on you why are you even considering moving in with him? Ditch him! You can do better.

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If you forgive him for it and continue the relationship he will only continue to cheat. It’s time to move on

Why would you even consider this? Why would you wanna question everyday about your relationship? Why would you want your daughter to grow up seeing this and think it’s ok? Why, why, why?

Nope! Don’t do it. Lying cheating being sneaky. He’s not ready for commitment. And you would be setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you stay.

Doesn’t matter if your daughter is close to him, he obviously doesn’t respect you, don’t show her it’s ok to settle for a man like that. He’s not honest with you except for what you called him out on, so what else is he doing that you don’t know about? Don’t move in with him, the breakup will be much more difficult if you do…because there will be a breakup.

Run. Run fast and never look back.

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Having been through this, please be strong and move on don’t waste your life on him.

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I have been in your shoes. 11 years ago 2 beautiful babys and 4 infadelitys that I know of and we have been seperated for going on 3 years. I would say get out now before you become numb to it and it become a consistancy because thats what it is.

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Yeah that’s a deal breaker obviously you are a second option and he’s still looking for greener grass. Trust me it doesn’t matter if he is being more affectionate for all you know he’s thinking of someone else.

Get out before you are stuck