I found out my ex is making our 4-year-old sleep on the floor: Advice?

My ex and I have 50/50 custody of our two daughters four-year-old and seven years old, my four-year-old go potty just fine during the day with no accidents but has trouble getting up at night and ends up peeing the bed. Today picking my seven-year-old from school told me her daddy doesn’t let our four-year-old sleep on the bed and is making her sleep on the floor. My question is, is this abuse? What should I do about this without getting my seven years old in trouble with her dad for telling me about the situation?

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Speak to a lawyer of the day at family court and ask how and what is the best way to approach!!!

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That’s SO messed up​:tired_face::disappointed_relieved:

Is it force or does she want to? Those are the questions to ask. Secondly she does deserve to sleep in a bed and if shes having accidents I’d make her wear a pull up to sleep. I had to do it with my son and he eventually grew out of it. I would ask him but not accuse him and see what he says and go to a lawyer from there

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Abuse him! And personally I don’t know if I would trust my kids to go there again if he thinks the answer to your four year old wetting the bed is making her sleep on the floor. That’s just not on. Maybe a nappy at night time? Mattress protector? Doesn’t seem very caring to make your four year old sleep on a hard floor!

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Yes. Each child should have a bed. And he needs to get a mattress protector.

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Not abuse. Just talk to your ex about it, suggest he get the plastic sheet covers.

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Buy a mattress cover to send with him.

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Talk to dad…see what he has to say. She shouldn’t be keeping on the floor. I get he doesnt want her to pee the bed, maybe get some Goodnught underwear then. Cut liquids at a certain time to maybe help
Talk to him though.
There are also matress covers to protect the bed.

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Horrible of him!! Why not just wear a pull up at nite time

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Maybe just buy a mattress protector and send it with her. 🤷 He might not even know those things exist, and not know how to get the urine out. You definitely don’t want to get your daughter in trouble, so bringing the law into it probably isn’t the route to go yet unless she’s still sleeping on the floor against her will, with the adjustments.

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Tell him to get a plastic cover for the bed…that way the pee dont seep into the matress…

Tell him to get a mattress protector and let her sleep on the bed!

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Take him back to court for sole custody. This is not a situation you want your children in.

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I mean…on the floor with no mat or blanket? Or just a pallet on the floor? I don’t think it’s abuse if he sets her up a sleeping area on the floor if he’s tired of her wetting the mattress. He could just get her some pull ups instead, but it’s not abuse. I’ve considered putting my 7 year old on the floor in her room on a waterproof mat because she still won’t wake up to go pee in the toilet. You get tired of washing sheets and blankets every day…

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She’s a child and she should have a bed to sleep in. He needs to be an adult and buy a mattress cover of some sort. Definitely talk to him and if he won’t be accommodating to her maybe in family court a discussion should be held about your younger child not spending the night there.

I don’t think it’s abuse, just precaution. Send some pull-ups for bedtime until she gets use to getting up to use the potty or recommend he gets a mattress protector. Also, implement a no liquid deal after 8/8:30pm, the both of you will have to stick to it for it to work.

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I would be livid!!! There are options available to him to help with bed wetting. Overnight pull ups and mattress protectors. Let him know that she can come back over for the night once he gets one of those.

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Staying dry overnight is developmental. It’s not her fault and there’s nothing that can be done to make it happen faster… why not just tell him to put pull-ups on her overnight? My 4-year old still wears them at night, even though he’s usually dry in the morning. I’m not sure it’s abuse, but it seems like there are some simple solutions to this, bc she shouldn’t have to sleep on the floor!

buy him a matter cover it protects the mattress he’s and idiot