I found out my husband slept with his ex after we broke up: Advice?

Right before my husband and I got married, we broke up for about six months. He’s military. He was away for school and had terrible trust issues, hacking my social media, email, etc. I got sick of it and told him I was done unless he could get it together. Anyway, while we were broken up, I hooked up with one of my old flings right before we got back together. I was completely transparent and told him right away because we were in the stages of getting back together. Fast forward a year and a half, this past Friday, I found out that he hooked up with his ex RIGHT AFTER WE BROKE UP and said nothing to me about when we’re in the stages of getting back together. So when I said something to him about it, he said I had no right to be angry because it happened while we were broken up. Mind you, when I told him I hooked up with an old fling, he acted like he was so heartbroken and didn’t understand why I would do that to him. He also knows that had he told me he hooked up with her, WE WOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN BACK TOGETHER. Part of me feels tricked like he manipulated the situation to get the outcome he wanted. Am I wrong for feeling the way I do?

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I’d be :v:out but that’s just me :sneezing_face: You gotta hold yourself to the same standard as your partner. You say you both hooked up with people from your past so it makes me wonder if y’all ever fully moved on from those people.

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You can’t act all high and mighty here, you did the same thing.

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You aren’t wrong for feeling that way, what he did was wrong. but at the end of the day you weren’t together he didn’t cheat. yes maybe he told a white lie but honestly ask yourself out of all of the good is it that bad to leave you’re marriage now!?!

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So you wouldn’t of gotten back with him for hooking up with his ex? But you hooked up with a past fling??? Yes, you’re wrong!!!

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I’ve been in a situation similar, my ex hooked up with someone and didn’t bother telling me because he knew him and I would of not worked shit out ,

Well that right there tells you why he didn’t tell you because he knows you would not have got back together with him. He sounds a little bit of a narcissist kind of like a victim I did it to you but how dare you do it to me even though you guys were broken up and you had the right to do each whatever you wanted. You have to decide whether or not you can forgive him and stay.

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Ummm you cant get mad over that when you did the same thing makes no sense to me🤔

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Nope not wrong. He did manipulate you into thinking you hurt him, when he did the same thing and hid it.

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I’m just wondering why he had trust issues with you from the beginning? If you gave him no reason to, usually that means the person with the trust issues is usually the one who can’t be trusted !

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My ex did the same thing except he didn’t sleep with the girl. And he always let the secrets like that slip when talking to a friend and would say it right beside me. As if I already knew. Then when I’d bring it up act like it wasn’t a big deal because we were “broken up”. But it wasn’t the fact that we were broken up it was the fact that he had lied. He and i aren’t together anymore i left him.

It’s time to get over yourself my dear!!

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He should have told you and not acted like he was completely innocent in the beginning but you literally did the same thing he did, you were just upfront about it. He’s allowed to see whoever he wants if you’re not together. You’re definitely overreacting

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You did the same thing…you have no right to be mad

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Ugh. Pot, meet kettle.

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You weren’t together.

You hooked up with an ex.

Why is it wrong that he did the same?

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I think you’re being a little bit hypocritical… I mean why would you have rejected him if you thought it was okay to do the same thing 🤷🤷 like you got together with someone your past so did he… Unless he is doing something now worth leaving over why not just leave the past in the past… 🤷🤷🤷

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Girl you are soooo wrong

You screwed around too while broken up but are pissed at him!!! While NOT together…you did the same thing dont act high and mighty.

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What he does when you guys are broken up as none of your business