I got divorced, was pregnant and the baby wasn't on the papers: What should I do?

So I got married, long story short. We got a divorce(still in the process) cause we do live in different states. Just right after we filed for divorce I found out I was 4 1:2 months pregnant with his child. So on all our divorce papers there’s nothing saying we have a child together. My baby is 17 months now. How do I go about everything and adding the baby to the papers doing custody. Or should I leave it alone(p.s don’t know if you can get In legal trouble for the baby not being apart of it) also another disclaimer I can’t contact the dad (haven’t been able too) also he is military. I am going to get a lawyer but I just wanted some advice/ support. And I don’t know if it’s too late.

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Why did you not mention it before the divorce?

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File for support and custody ASAP.

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File for custody and child support. The government will take it from his pay.

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It could be because baby isn’t born yet? In my divorce my children’s names and birthdates were in the divorce papers and it was asked if paternity had been established for child support reasons. Contact the clerk of courts and verify what is going on and what steps you need to take when baby arrives.

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Why didn’t you mention you were pregnant :thinking: or did you not tell him either.

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If you have a decent relationship with the dad, talk to him first and see if you can come to an agreement outside of the courts. It’s better for everyone if you can .

It depends on what you want from dad. You wont get in trouble for baby not being on divorce papers. You can do custody separate. I did.

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If he’s military your baby gets benefits. So definitely go about getting his paternity established and letting him know.

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Leave it alone that happend to me and all I got back was big problems.

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Did anybody read the entire post?

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Geez every single one of you women are so quick to jump for child support, ridiculous!!!

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You have 300 days after a divorce for child to be considered child of marriage unless proven otherwise by denial of paternity or dna test

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I’m just coming to the conclusion that there are way more mouth breathers in this world then I thought… this is going to be judgmental so if you cant handle that scroll on now - Seriously move on. 1) Why did you have sex, unsafe sex at that, with someone you’re getting a divorce from, THAT’S STUPID! 2) If you knew when you were 4 1/2 months during the divorce why did you not say anything, THAT’S EXTRA STUPID! 3) why are you finally thinking about this almost 2 years later. Sounds extra fishy to me - hope he gets a DNA test.

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In PA when you are married and conceived a child he is the presumptive father even without documentation and can still go through custody proceedings even the child isn’t mentioned in the divorce paperwork.

You cant just leave it alone.the kid has a right to their father.and vice versa

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The baby is 17 months, and you were pregnant for 9 months and you havent been able to contact the dad that entire time?

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Child support is different than divorce. You can file for child support even if you were never married. I’m assuming he knew about the pregnancy? If he doesn’t want to be in the child’s life he can sign away his rights.

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The military will make it pay for child support on top of even possilbly getting helathcare and other benefits. Find out parentage laws where you live. If you know the name and state hes in it wont be hard to find him lol

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You said the divorce isnt finalized yet so yes, you need to tell someone that’s involved in the divorce (his lawyer or yours). He can use this against you if you dont bring it up & that can jeopardize your custody chances.

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