I had to go back to work after having my baby and I feel awful: Advice?

I didn’t plan on going back to work after I had my baby. I can stay at home, and my partner would be able to provide for our little family. Unfortunately, after two months of maternity leave, we were struggling financially. I had to go back to work before the three month period. Everyone said it would get better. For me, it hasn’t gotten any better. I actually feel a little worse every day. My baby will be five months next week, and it hurts me so much that I can’t take care of her all the time. The fact that I work so far from home is getting to me too. I need to find a job from home or something closer to home part-time. I just had a breakdown today while I was pumping at work. My mom and my partner don’t get it. They think it’s supposed to get easy with time. It’s been three months, and they try to make me feel better by saying at least I have an income and benefits. I know I’m providing financial stability for my baby. I feel like I’m missing out on her and her milestones. It has also made breastfeeding hard for us. That’s another issue. Breastfeeding is important to me, and going back to work has made that challenging. I just needed to vent. I have no one to talk to.

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Are you able to work 4 days a week?

I felt this. you aren’t alone. :heart:

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Many moms work after giving birth and it’s hard on us all. The questions you must ask yourself is it mom guilt or postpartum depression… I work and my husband stays home with our kids and I love my job so it makes it easier and I know they are safe. Maybe try working a split shift. Like being a bus driver or a monitor in your area. That way you have a few hours in between to be home with your baby, 3 hours on 5 off 3 on is usually the way it goes then you would have plenty of time to nurse as well. I drive bus I dont get an in between break as I have a midday shift but I am home on all breaks I’ve been off two weeks for Christmas and I am home the entire summer which is nice when I’m off they are off school.

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Welcome to parenthood…get over yourself…ur not the first one that had to go back to work…get off the pitty pot!!!

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You are looking after your child when you work. Sure it isn’t the same…nothing can be…but remember every day U r there U r loving your child

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It’s called sacrifice…quit whining and be glad you have a job…welcome to adulthood…

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How did you get the budget so wrong that you went from plenty of money to struggling in 8 weeks?? Does someone have a gambling problem?

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If I had to go to work full time after having my daughter I would feel the exact same way. So you are not the only one. Luckily I only work a few hours a week so I’m not away from her along time, and I’m home when my son gets of the bus. It would have killed me if I had to work all day and be away from her that long. I get it❤️

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I felt this too. I quit my job and we made cuts on our budget so that I could stay home. I cut several things to keep us from being strapped. It’s not always easy but we make it work. I originally went back to work after my 4 months of maternity leave but it got worse everyday. I hated it. I hated every second of every work day. So 2 months later I quit.

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Mom bullying is real… Wow guys. You never felt guilty for leaving your baby?

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You’re doing amazing!! Take your time easing into things mentally and emotionally. I know jobs like HSN are work from home and have varying shifts with decent pay if they’re hiring in your state. Take time to look for closer jobs if it makes you feel better. Just remember you’re doing what you have to do and that doesn’t make you a bad mom. :sparkling_heart:

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I went back to work 6 weeks after having my daughter. She’s two now and it kills me every day. But, the thing that has helped me is getting her into an awesome daycare where she loves to go everyday. Instead of feeling like I’m abandoning her for the day, I feel like I’m dropping her off with her friends for a few hours. Our daycare also posts pics and videos throughout the day so that helps. And some days, I sit in my office and watch all the videos I have of her on my phone. Lol.

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Janet Smith u didn’t have to be so rude that is not making her feel any better

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It sounded like you were close to being able to stay home, could you be able to afford part time? I think it would help immensely if you found something close to home, part time…I would cry on the drive to work every day until he was around 5 months old, you’re not alone… try something else and hang in there!

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Side note, a lot the women in these comments are showing their ugly. Empathy is a human emotion you all could use a refresher in.

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Some of these are comments are uncalled for

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My 2 daughters done it just think god the baby is healthy and you have a job

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Not just you but generally this situation is why statistically it’s better to wait to have children til you’re financially stable enough for one parent to support the family for this. People would have much happier lives if they waited till the time was right.

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I’m in the comments section for all those bitches who are here to offer nothing but negativity.
Get the fuck off this page please. You’re not wanted or welcome here.