I have a restraining order against my ex and need advice

I have a restraining order in criminal court on my ex-husband. He cannot have any verbal or physical contact with me or come within 500 feet of my home for two years. He is on probation and has jail time hanging over his head if this or anything else happens. I received word that he and his GF are looking at homes to rent in my area. One, in particular, is less than 2 miles away. It’s also on my route to work, and he knows this. I have heard in divorces, people having a limit as to how far they can move away with children. (A friend of mine, for example, cannot move more than 50 miles away with her kids to ensure that dad gets adequate parenting time.) My question is, technically, 2 miles is not breaking his 500-foot rule, BUT it’s way too close for comfort, and it’s asking for problems, and I think he is trying to set up a perfect situation for him to potentially run into me. We do have one child together; he has zero custody of him; he can’t come near us. Has anyone ever been concerned about something like this and asked the court for Their ex-spouse to be ordered to live within a certain number of miles away from them? Is this even possible?

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I get it and it sucks having him that close, but if he can legally be there you really can’t stop him.

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I don’t think they’ll do anything about it unless he violates the current order… its more then 500 feet and you could always find another route to work

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Nothing can be done he’s not in violation of the order. Just an asshole

I think u need to ask a lawyer about this bc no one can actually tell u except a judge or a lawyer from ur state

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I can only suggest that you talk with your lawyer. They will give you the best advice on what to do. I can understand where you are coming from and it is suspicious on his end

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Call the landlord renting the place and provide them with a little history of his possible future tenant

You can move and if he has no rights you have no restrictions on how far you can move away from him and if you are in fear when you moved you can have your address hidden through the courts so he has a restraining order on you without having to have your physical address ive done it

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If he violates the order call the police. People still have freedoms outside of the court system. Get security cameras, find a new route to work, if guns are your thing- own one.

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I think the restraining orders mean if you show up somewhere and he is within 500 ft and if u drive that way every day then that could put you in the 500ft range and might be one of the only technicalities on your side. I would approach the local jurisdiction and courts and see what they can help you with. Also get a copy of the restraining order and read it thoroughly and see what is and isn’t allowed. I’d start calling around asap

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You need to talk to an attorney. You can also talk to the local law enforcement, give them a heads up that there might be a potential problem, also if I were you I would look into security cameras, for your home and vehicle. Other than that there is nothing you can do unless he approaches you.

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It sucks but really it’s a peice of paper. I would pick up and move when you are able to. I know you shouldnt have to but you dont have to disclose your address to the courts. Get out of that area as soon as you can.

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You should contact a lawyer!! Get actual legal advice. I am a trained paralegal so that is my recommendation!!

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You cant do anything unless he approaches you. In any case he can still live there. You have to find a different route to work

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Wow! Just go about living ur life and stop minding his business. He ain’t within the 500 ft ,so therefore you will have to change your route. Obviously, he moved ob!

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Call and talk to your lawyer.

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no the court cannot tell him where he cannot live

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Unfortunately as long as he is not violating the 500 ft rule there is nothing you can do about it

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If he has no rights to your child, move. You can’t stop him from doing anything umless he does come within 500 feet. If you’re uncomfortable, and have full custody, move away.

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Live your life and keep it moving. Save your money trying to make him move. If he crosses the line then take care of it.

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