I have absolutely no sex drive, it's taking a toll on my marriage: Any advice?

I have been married for 5 years and with my husband a little over 7. We have three boys together after my 2nd son was born; it was like my sex drive went away. And here it is four years later I still don’t have one, and it is taking a toll on my relationship with my husband. When we do have sex, I just do it bc I really don’t want it at all I just want to be left alone, but he feels like I don’t love him or want him, and that definitely not the reason. Has anyone ever experienced this. And what has helped y’all I’m so scared my loss of sex drive is gonna destroy my marriage PLEASE HELP!!!

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Seek a doctor for help

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I would reach out to your Ob❤

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This is my life :woman_facepalming:t3: we’ve been married 3, together 7 and I literally could go months without and be just fine. I have PCOS and my doc said it was related to that but it puts a real strain on my marriage.

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Have your hormones check.

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Couples counseling and a OB check up.

Sounds like your hormones need to be balanced.

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I think there are hormones you can take maybe? I hope you find a solution

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Definitely have your hormones checked. If they are unbalanced this is one of the symptoms

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Maca can definitely help balance hormones, same with essential oils works absolute wonders

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Get checked out because your husband definitely have needs and it can cause problems in a marriage.

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I have this same issue. I only have it bc I know he needs it sometimes. I wish so bad that I had one! I want to want to make love and express myself to him in that way. But I don’t… At all. :frowning:

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Try maca root it’s a supplement

I am in the same boat… Been going in for 6 years

if your on any meds some times that is a side effect from that drug, go to your dr and find out, hell three kids in the house and young hell I wouldn’t want sex either, sit down talk, find a spatk flirt, go on a date night once a week go back to dating each other, find ways to relieve some of the stress of being a mother and father and see if that helps, if not counseling sounds like the best bet good luck

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I’m in the opposite position he never wants sex and I do honestly know how you feel tho bc I feel like its hurting my relationship where I dont wanna get married bc he never want me sexually

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Hubby & I saw a sex therapist . He said to cuddle & pet but no sex for one month . By the time the month was up I was more than ready . Really worked .

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It’s probably low testosterone. Take Chaste Berry supplement, it increased mine like WOW (and I wasn’t wanting that so I was frustrated lol ). It’s recommended to menopausal women because low sex drive is a common side effect. Anyone, any age can take it though.

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I can’t imagine being in a relationship where lack of sex will ruin your marriage. Definitely see a counselor/dr.

Oh yes, it most certainly will ruin any relationship, intimacy is the thing that couples look forward to having together, the one special thing you do with your partner that you don’t do with anyone else. While sex may only be 10% of a relationship, not having sex becomes 90% of the reason for arguments, you start nit picking each other out of frustration and it becomes a BIG part of your relationship. I would seek counseling and a doctors advice. Not much a bunch of strangers on FB can do for you.

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