I have terrible post partum depression: Advice?

I’m a SAHM and an FTM. My baby is six months old, and I can’t get anything done. I go to the bathroom my child cries, my baby is so stubborn fussing with the bottle she’ll move her head around and gag on the bottle cry whine before taking it I give my baby teethers, and it’s basically pointless because all she does is puts it in her mouth for a minute then throws them on the ground. I truly feel like giving up. I have terrible thoughts and don’t want to take care of my child at times. I want to make it clear I would never hurt my child. I’m just struggling with what I believe postpartum depression. I’m already on antidepressants. I feel like I’ll always feel this way forever. I’m in college, and it’s so difficult to get any work done. I’m going to be seeing my doctor soon. Mommies, what helped you? I feel like I’m going crazy.

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I am so sorry you’re going through that! I can’t say I have advice from personal experience, but maybe go back to your Dr and tell them what’s going on and they might adjust your meds or change them.

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Take a deep breath and know that you are doing great mama! I’m glad you have an appointment Set up with the doctor because PPD is real and it can make a day and night difference if you get help. For the baby not wanting to be put down I’d look into a baby carrier (I’ve got a Lillebaby) it let’s baby sleep and hang out while you can move around. Some mamas have hacked it to even breastfeed in it! Just know you can make it through this tough time!

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Being a mommy isnt always fabulous. Having kids is a struggle girl. Stick it out things will get better :heart:

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Please find a friend or family member who can come and watch the baby for a couple hours while you get some time for yourself or just to offer you company. So sorry you are going through this. Sending you hugs and hoping it gets better :purple_heart:

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First pllllleeeeaaaaaseeeee message me ever if you need to talk to anyone! I had an instance with my first born where she would stop crying and wouldn’t feed her Pos father wouldn’t help and I thought I was going to lose it so I put her down in her crib closed the door and walked away took a moment to myself in the bathroom and put some cold water on my face just to relax a minute and then came back to snuggle her right to sleep. I know it’s hard but YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!

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I was literally in the same situation! My son is 6 now and it’s still tough, but trust me, it gets easier! I found when I was in your situation, what helped the most was when people told me it will get easier❤and trust me, it does

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I’ve been EXACTLY where you are. First, it does get easier, MUCH easier but with time does come new challenges. I suggest getting out of the house whenever possible, with or without the baby. It gives you a sense of normalcy. Plus it’s good to talk to people, even if its just a quick hello and someone ogling over your baby.

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I know what you’re going through I’ve been there I’ve had times where my baby cried and I cried with him. Just go to the doctor tell them what you’re experiencing and hopefully they’ll be able to help you. It’s a struggle but you can do it mama stay strong.

Get you and baby on a schedule.in the mornings put baby in a bouncer or high chair in front of some cartoons so u can get some stuff done,get baby on a nap schedule and use that time to work on your schooling.and in between give baby attention so she still feels your love

You’re acknowledging it, that’s a great first step. Certainly reach out to your Dr! My inbox is open to you :purple_heart::purple_heart:

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have been there w my first born. There were times when I contemplated giving him up for adoption. It was the depression taking over. Definitely seek help through your doctors, primary, psychologist and do y’all therapy. Simply taking medication isn’t sufficient to get through this. Talk therapy is essential. I promise you will get through this. Put in the work and don’t give up. It will pass. If you have any other means of support through family and friends I would definitely lean on them and don’t be afraid to ask for help. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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Best advice I can give you is get in to be seen by your OB asap. They will work you in. I had postpartum with my last child and I kept putting off asking for help. Take the meds, talk to your partner about help and always talk to someone you trust about your feelings. It will get better but you need to do the treatment and take care of yourself as best as you can. I know that is really freaking hard with a newborn!

First, your not alone especially when you are a FTM and you should be proud of yourself that you recognize there is a problem. Now, clinically… If your already taking medication and your still
feeling this way you should tell
whomever prescribed it. Normally, it can take up to two weeks for it to reach a therapeutic level
in your blood. If it has been longer than that contract them. The things about medication is it can make you MORE depressed until it reaches the right level in your blood stream which may explain why you are still feeling so down.

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Girl I have been in your shoes!! It’s ok for her to cry sometimes. Go take the potty break you need and if shes mad then let her fuss it out while you do your business. As far as the bubba goes try and give her little soft foods like super steamed carrots maybe that will fill her up and keep her happy. Dont ever be afraid to tell your doctor the meds arnt working, the first try is usually never right. And dont be afraid to ask for help in friends and family too! Take a night for yourself, being a mother is seriously so hard and going to school on top of it must be exhausting. Just keep in mind when you think you cant/dont want to do it that your her hero and everything you do (weather it seems like it or not) is like the most incredible thing to her. She loves you endlessly and she is so so happy your her mama. Another good thing is a jumper/set me up chair! Best of luck mama!

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It doesnt sound like ppd to be honest. Being a mom is overwhelming. I have 4 including 2 teens, a 4 yr old and newborn and virtually doing it alone. Their dad works a lot and is home late. Trust me. I feel like running away every single day. I havent showered in almost a week.

Maybe slower flow nipples my oldest was colic which was a struggle and my youngest had horrible gerd both was a struggle but it won’t take long for things to get easier don’t stress so much about house work and if available ask for help help with the baby and maybe good friends help around the house

Could it be possible that you told her to much and she’s so used to it? As a ftm it is difficult and I think I could honestly say that a majority of us understand that. If dads in the picture is it possible that he takes care of her for a little bit while you go out or take a nap and unwind? Or idk is there anyone that can help you?

I struggled with postpartum as well. I had 2 miscarriages before I gave birth and having a c-section didnt help with bonding. He was up all night and slept all day no matter what I did. I talked to my doctor, changed my meds and we went on A LOT of walks. Two more classes and this single mom of 2 will have her masters degree! Just know, you are strong and smart and powerful! If you ever need to talk you are more than welcome to PM me just to vent! :heart::heart::heart:

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Oh, my dear girl! I’m long past the stage of a new Mom, but I can relate, just the same. Please try to see your Dr. asap. Perhaps s/he can direct you to at-home supports and adjust medication. You’re embarking upon the most difficult, yet rewarding job in the world. I think your baby isn’t stubborn, but having his/her own difficulties. (It’s not easy being a newborn, either) :slight_smile: I don’t know your name, but God does, and I will be praying for you daily. God bless you! Looking forward to happy updates.
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