I left my husband and will be giving birth alone: Advice?

So I currently have an 11-month-old baby & I am 33 weeks pregnant. I just left my husband due to a lot of reasons for just putting up with a bunch of disrespectful stuff. I am scared to deliver in the hospital by myself. I have a family that will stay with my 11-month-old when my other baby comes. But I don’t want him there when I deliver; anyone else goes through this? I’m really scared because I have to raise two little ones on my own & I would have never imagined that. Any supportive advice is greatly appreciated

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I don’t have any advice but I will pray for you.

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Your stronger than you believe. Andbuoull get through it. Ask a best friend. Or family member. Your going to look back and ask yourself would you have t asher been alone or with someone who isn’t right for you. Trust me when I say it may be hard at first but it gets better. It takes time. And keep your mind busy. Don’t sit alone etc. Just keep busy and focus. Sending prayers.

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You can do it!!! Better be in peace then being disrespected! Go girl!!!

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All I can say is I went thro this same thing. Tell the hospital to not call anyone. You can make calls. Don’t list you in the directory. And do not tell your ex you are in labor or where you are at. You aren’t alone the nurses are there 24/7 and can and will help you and talk you thro it all. It’s only alone until you get one to your other baby :confused: you’ve got this mama your strong and don’t stress about it to much. Your going to have a sweet bundle of joy

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All you need is nurses, lean in them, talk to them, that’s what they are there for!!! You can do it and more mama!!!

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You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for. I just went through this with my youngest sons father. You will get through this.

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Best advice is take things one day at a time and bring your second baby home with the attitude of “I can do this”. Your love for your babies will get you through. I did it completely by myself for 6 years until I finally met my husband this year. It gets hard and you will have days where you want to give up but it’s ok you will get into the groove of it and things will turn out just fine. Goodluck!

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I have an 8 year old and 6 month old fixing to divorce their father. It’s hard doing it alone…but I can do this momma!!

Can a sibling, friend or trusted church member help you?

I wasn’t alone, but my husband was nervous. My L&D nurses were some of the best companions I could’ve asked for…they were sweet, patient, and cheerleaders when I needed them most. My first shift nurse actually stayed late off the clock to cheer me on to push because she had been with me all day.

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My nurses were the best thing for me in labor even with family and my ex. They are amazing. I know it’s not the same feeling but they are so helpful and selfless!

If you don’t have a friend or family member to be with you then think about hiring a doula–the are trained to support only you and are there the entire time unlike the nurses.

Just had my 4th baby in September on my own, as I went into labour at 2am so my partner had to stay and look after them, at the time I was terrified but thinking back it was one of my nicest labour’s compared to my other 3 were I had my partner with me. The delivery nurses are brilliant and make you feel even more comfortable couldn’t have asked for a better labour even tho at the time it was so hard but I’m glad it went the way it did :heart_eyes:

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Going thru a very similar situation. I am about 32 weeks along and my son is turning one soon. I left my ex due to his abuse and drug use… My advice is dont stress out. You got this momma :heart: you don’t have to be alone. Have someone you can trust be there to support you

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Yes! Going through the exact same thing. I am terrified about giving birth alone but I feel like it will be very empowering once it happens knowing I did it all by myself and give me the strength I need to go forward

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U got this god wont put anything on u that u couldn’t bare god got u praying for a safe and healthy delivery :pray:t5::pray:t5::pray:t5::purple_heart:

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Don’t stress about it go with the flow take it a day at a time concentrate on your little one and baby when it arrives and you will get through it and be stronger than ever xx

sounds like you’re getting lots of great supportive advice but i just want to say, make sure you are 100% on this decision. the birth of your child is something he will never get back and if he intends to be involved, there will probably be a lot of hard feelings over that. it is your decision, YOU are the one giving birth. but if he’s upset you have to be prepared to be as understanding of that as possible. i’m not trying to guilt you or make you think you’re in the wrong or anything of the sort. i’m just encouraging you to consider the potential weight of this decision if you haven’t already. good luck and congratulations, you will do an amazing job with or without a partner there!

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I’m not the same circumstances but did deliver alone by choice I found it was less stressful to be by myself I could focus more and it was comfortable best of luck you can do it and congratulations