I may have contracted HPV from my SO and I am pregnant: Advice?

Hi ladies! I want to anonymous! I am 11 weeks pregnant with my second kid’s dad( my other two kids. Dad passed away)! Anyways my tubes were tied, and I meet a man that is amazing with my kids, and to be honest, we accidentally got pregnant! I have two questions? He is overjoyed being it’s his first kid, but I am miserable because I didn’t want another kid, but since I got pregnant, he has become very controlling about who I can talk to and where I can go do I stay or leave? Also, last night, he revealed to me a few years ago he got diagnosed with HPV got treated and hasn’t been tested since! I have never had an STD and trusted him, so when I saw my on, and she asked me if I wanted to be tested, I said no! Well, I have an appointment on Thursday, and I am going to ask her to test me for all STDS! Has anyone here ever contract an STD from a so while pregnant how did you feel, and how did they treat it? Was the baby okay?

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Hpv is very very. common. Good luck :blue_heart:

Men can have it and never know it. I think he might be trying to stress you out.

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It’s not technically an STD. It’s a virus you can just carry. A few years ago my HPV test was positive and the dr told me it couldve been from 15 years ago to now it was just dormant. The only time they treat it is if you have an abnormal pap (abnormal cells on it) I ended up having that as well and just had to have some biopsy’s to check for cervical cancer. All came back fine. Annual exams
Since show negative on bith and there was no treatment done for the HPV. It’s not like HIV or chlamydia. This is one situation where google might actually help you understand how the virus works!

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Hpv cannkt be cured. It gles away on its kwn sometimes. Can take years.

Well for one having HPV is nothing to be ashamed about so please don’t beat yourself up if you have it!

2 this man is not ok. It is complete bullshit to not tell people your sexual health and then randomly tell them when it’s convenient.

3 some men are amazing until you become pregnant and something switches in them and they become abusive. Keep an eye out bc it sounds like he is becoming abusive and controlling.

I haven’t ever had an std during pregnancy but from my understanding the baby can’t get it.

I know someone who had hpv thru pregnancy. They just need to be aware and you have a normal pregnancy. You can’t fix it so he did not get it cured.

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Honestly there’s no reason for him to be tested again he tested positive for once before he has it it’s incurable

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Find out for you and the baby. By the way, he starts to conto is a bad sign. Stop it right now.

You are supposed to test BEFORE having relations!!!

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I tested positive for 4 pap swears in under a year (frequent testing due to the first positive) then never had anything test positivities again and never did anything about it. Ob couldn’t explain it but said that I would most likely be unable to have kids after this (also had cysts) 2 kids later I think they’re full of :poop:

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So, leave. He’s become controlling? Leave. It’s exponentially more difficult one your baby is born…

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HPV is a virus. It cant be cured, but it can be treated. If left untreated it can develop into cancer. I had the HPV vaccine when I was 15. It’s very common. If you didnt catch it maybe you should look into getting the vaccine to protect yourself

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They test for hpv through papsmear and that’s standard with pregnancy, so she’s likely already tested you.

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If he’s being controlling then you need to leave. About the hpv, just ask your doctor about it

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I have the cancer type of hpv and I’ve had very normal pregnancies it does not effect pregnancy at all

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Definitely tell your doctor. They will need to know when you go into labor. Probably have c section.

First off momma if he is controlling you, either put your foot down and talk to him about it or you leave. It’s not ok for any type of controlling relationship… Second you just got to remember all men are natural carriers of the HPV virus women are just more susceptible to getting it because of sexual activity. 90% of women actually have HPV by the time they are 40 years old they just may not have an “active” case going on. so honestly I wouldn’t stress too much about it unless you are showing up with physical signs of it which if you are you have to be aware that you can pass it on to your child if you have an active case going on during labor but other than that the physical signs of it go away on their own for the most part. and I also would not worry about if he transmitted it to you because it’s more likely you got it from your first sexual activity ever according to a study recently published…

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Also, those of you saying it’s incurable are wrong. It typically goes away on it’s own. So, yes, it’s untreatable, but doesn’t last forever. It does take anywhere from 3 months to 2years to resolve itself.

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I got HPV from my son’s father. Men can NOT get tested. So that’s a lie. My son is fine. I just have abnormal paps and need to get checked every year for cancer

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