I moved in with my friends and they are not paying me to watch their kids: Advice?

I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I just moved in with my friends, and they have three kids because they both watch. I’ve been in charge of watching the kids now they both want to be a truck driver, so they would be gone for three weeks at a time I would be responsible for their kids full time, and even when they are here, I’m still responsible for feeding them and bathing them, but they don’t want to pay me anything, and I was wondering is it wrong of me to say demand at least some pay

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So you are being the parent

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So you would like to be an official nanny. Nothing wrong with being paid to be a nanny.

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Free rent at least!!!
Tell them ur getting a job and can’t watch them anymore as u need money… they will soon change their tune

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Get a job an move out they may think giving you a place to stay an feed you is enough pay

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I think you should be how much depends if you pay rent

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Are you living there for free? Or paying rent? If for free I’d consider that pay enough… if you’re paying rent then I would want payment for watching the kids.

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Don’t be responsible for any children other than

yours. Leave fast. This will end up very ugly!

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Are you paying them rent and money towards bills? If not they could see it as your way of payment

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The only suggestion I’ve got is If you don’t like it move out this is the reason I’d never live with anyone else

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If you pay rent you have a choice if not then you still have a choice. You didnt birth them you’re not a step parent you’re not a built in baby sitter

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Youre basically the nanny… Yes you should be compensated… Either with free room and board or with cash…

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Not enough info. Are you responsible for any bills or rent?

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This should have been something discussed before moving in. If you aren’t on the lease, I’d move now. Or get courage and tell them you aren’t watching their kids. That’s a lot of responsibility. That’s 24 hr care. Even if you are living there free (which you didn’t specify) 24hr care of children is NOT equal to free housing. What if something happens to the kid while with you? They could sue and you have to live with that something happened. This is a huge NO. So, say no, or move out.

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Even if you’re living there rent free that’s still not enough money to watch 3 children! Unless you’re 1 bedroom you’re renting is 1400 dollars a month!

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Doesn’t matter if you pay rent or not. They can’t realistically up and leave their kids to be truck drivers. They are not your responsibility :woman_shrugging:

I wouldn’t even do it if it covered rent. That’s 3 kids full time for 3 weeks. Kids that aren’t even yours. Can they even legally do that? What if they get super sick or injured? Can you legally even pick them up from school and what not? You’re not even related to them.

Don’t. It’s all bad news.

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Check out the cost of day care in your area, then double it, at least, for day and night responsibilities. Check the cost of rent for the amount of space that is used by you privately, plus the cost you would need to spend if you fed yourself, add some for utilities, if they are covering those costs extra. Subtract the cost for your room and board and % of utilities from the daily/weekly amount that they would have to pay someone doing professional child care. Then ask yourself, “Is it worth it?” You will have NO free time, add school and homework helper, grocery shopping, parenting with discipline included. Is it still worth it? You can’t quit without notice, they will need time if they have to replace you and, let me tell you, this will be nearly impossible for them to find a replacement. I would guess this will end in a no win situation for everyone involved. Truck driving is not as fun as it may seem!!!

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Move asap. Your friendship is over especially when you ask to be paid.

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The children are THEIR responsibility — not yours. It’s not going to get better…get out !!

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My husband’s uncle lives with us. He isn’t 24 hours 7 days a week. He watches our 3 kids for 8 hours a week total. Occasionally we sneak away for the night. Once in 12 months we stay in hotel. He lives with us completely free. He pays no bills or food. In fact his daughter is up from Florida and we are covering the extra activities too. 24hrs/7days a week I would not say fair at all. They need to find someone willing to do this. Sorry but this screams bad idea. If something happens they will hold you responsible and that could be worse than paying rent. Run.

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