I moved to be with my fiance and now he is treating me badly: Advice?

I need some advice, please. 1.5 half years ago, I moved to the other side of the world to live with my now fiance. I have a 12-year-old stepdaughter who I love very much, and I am 4 months pregnant. I don’t have any friends or family here, and I also don’t work at the moment as I am waiting for my study visa. Since I am pregnant, my fiance and I have not been getting along. He’s criticizing everything I am doing and is making me feel more hated than loved. I don’t have any other support in this country. I am really scared about what things are going to be like when the baby is here. It has been so bad lately that I am wondering whether I should move back home with my parents, where I have more people to support me and raise my child there. I love my fiance and my stepdaughter (who lives with us btw) very much, and I don’t want to leave them, but I am feeling helpless and alone and don’t know what to do anymore. I’m not getting any love or support here. I need to make this decision soon, but I really don’t know what to do. I need some advice, please

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Asap…Take care of yourself first …GOHOME

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Let him know how he is treating u I would go back to parents for awhile. U can still talk to step daughter. Chances r this maybe how he treated his daughters mom. U don’t need to be treated like this.

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move back to your family. if he’s acting that before baby, it’ll be worse when baby here. be safe and go home to mom. where you’ll have support and help with your baby.

Then you need to move out amd go back to your parents. Even if you dont want too it might be best. Dont let some narcissist tear you down.

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Go to where you have support.
Understandable that you love your fiancé and step daughter, but you should love you more and that little bubba you’re growing.

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You should move out. Go back with you parents. People like him never change, he was just hitting his true self. Now you’ve seen it and hopefully you won’t wait until gets even worse for you. As for the stepdaughter there’s nothing You can do about it. Make you and your bb safe before is too late

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If he like that now,what will he be like when the baby comes ??? I would move back home

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LEAVE ASAP!!! I lived through this and it doesnt get better it get much worse and if you don’t take the upper hand he will destroy you and take your baby. Be strong enough to take charge of your owm life!! I wasn’t and im still recovering almost 20 yrs later. Good luck, if you really want advise please please listen to me and leave now before it’s too late!!!

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Maybe don’t MOVE back to your parents but go back for a long visit, like a month, and see how you feel. Are you happier? Did you miss your boyfriend? Did he miss you? See how each of you feel at that time.

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It’s crazy how you went across the world for some dude and now you’re shocked that it isn’t working out

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Pack up your stuff and leave now! Go home to your family while you can! This will only get worse!

As soon as that baby is born he can stop you from leaving the country! If you think you’re stuck now, just wait!

Run run run

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If u don’t like the way you are being treated then maybe the best advice is to go home. Put yourself n kids 1st no matter what

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What makes you think he’s going to treat you any better once the child’s here. Leave , go home. If he wants you and the baby let him do the asking and for forgiveness.

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Go home. Your body is already going through so much with carrying a child. You don’t need stress added to your pregnancy. A man should respect you more for carrying their child.

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I would go back home before the baby is born. Chances are things will only get worse and when the baby is born, he will threaten to take it away from you.

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Move home your not doing yourself or you’re carrying!! You need support right now!!

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I’d leave now it’s not gonna get better once the baby is here it’ll get worse go home to your family x

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Go home now, while you can. Don’t wait for harm to come your way…leave.

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Leave before you can’t

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