I offered to host my friends babyshower but she doesn't want kids there: Thoughts?

I offered to co-host my friend’s baby shower. I am a first-time mom, and my baby will be nine months by the date of the shower, and he is exclusively breastfed. My friend indicated that she does not want children at the baby shower. However, I am not comfortable leaving my baby for hours at a time, especially since he’s breastfeeding. What would you do?

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Her baby shower her rules. Rescind your invitation to host

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I’d get a sitter and go for an hour or two :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Tell her sorry but my son has go come with me or i cant come.

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Apologize and tell her you cant throw it because you dont want to be apart from your baby :slight_smile:

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Honestly if find a sitter and only have the party a couple hours then have the sitter bring babe back to you in time for the next feeding. Defiantly would work something out since you offered to co-host. And those parties take up a lot of your attention.

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Stay home then… you make your own priorities.

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Talk to her about it!!

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Pump and get a sitter for a couple hours.

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Could you have someone bring the baby by when he needs to eat and you step out? Or tell her that you can’t host, and attend the shower between feeds for a little bit to support her.

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Can you pump? And have someone else watch your baby? If not then I would stay home. I’m sure she would understand.

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Typically when people say “no children” they mean they don’t want kids running around. I’d ask. And let her know you plan on bringing the baby.

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Anyone who knows me knows if my child can’t come, I can’t come. I’d invite my friend out for a nice dinner on a different day and still get the baby something nice.

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Retract your offer to co-host and don’t go.

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How about ask what her definition of kids is? Im sure an infant would be exluded from “kids”…she is prob referring to older kids who are able run around and get into everything

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Personally I’d be excited to have an hour or two kid free. :joy:🤷
But if y’all are close enough that she wants you to host, you should be close enough to explain your situation. She can either find a different host or allow your baby.

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Talk to her and voice your concerns. If you can’t come to an agreement, don’t go.

Pump and leave the baby with someone you trust. Have some you time enjoy your friends experience I’m sure she came to yours.

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Talk to her and compromise or don’t go

My sis is doing mine and wants my son to come but I’ve sed no I Dnt want any kids there x