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Walk out the door and don’t look back it’s hard the First time but you can do it you are stronger than you think
You don’t need any advise of the relationship is toxic…just leave.
Have a plan
Place to stay,little cash,bags packed and ready to go
Leave and don’t look back !
I did it by moving in with someone i trusted and who was willing to help me get back on my feet while keeping me from going back and doing something i didnt need to be doing
My momma always said when you tired you will be done anyone can give you advise but it takes YOU to truly be over the mess it’s a self choice at the end of the day nobody can tell you what to do other then self.
Run, don’t walk, and don’t look back.
Leave. If you go back, leave again. Eventually it will stick.
If there’s kids involved. There’s more to be done. If your in one and find it hard to. Get therapy. Get to the root of why you allow men in like this. You feel the red flags but keep moving forward hoping it’s not like that forever maybe…? Maybe your like me and witnessed it and thought that was love. Maybe you see it but can’t find the strength to leave. Therapy helped me. It made me secure of my emotions. That what I felt was real and what I felt wronged in was wrong. Sometimes we need a cheerleader to give us that motivation. You can message me if you wana talk
Never leave until your mind is made up and I mean it better be made up so you don’t go back ever
Pack up when he leave a out don’t say nothing at all take what you can without him knowing money and phone.block his calls. Get you a place and don’t tell nobody that he knows about where you at.but pleases don’t go back to the house for anything you left.it won’t turn out nice if you do.make sure you have everything you need.
If by toxic you mean they are abusive then wait until they are gone or at someone else house to tell them its over, then go stay at your family or a good friends till you can find a safe place away from them. If its not abusive tell them you are done, and keep yourself busy with whatever you decide to, like work,going back to school if that’s something you need to do or workout. Good luck
Pack your shit and just go. That’s what I did.
No advice… you get your shit and go. Don’t look back. Things will never change
You’ll know when you’re ready to leave…
You gather all the strength you have left and you use it to take that step to walk away. You rely on someone close and supportive to help you keep walking away. You remind yourself every minute why you are leaving. You be brave. You try your best. And you believe that better is out there.
Okay so baby steps.
Financial: stash any cash away you can. Get cash back at the store, or if that’s a no go, buy a $10 item and then return it for cash next time you’re there. If you’re able, open a secret bank account, make sure its 100% paperless. All statements online.
Minimize: if you live together, plan what you’ll need to leave, and what you can’t live without. Start organizing it for easy egress in the guise of spring cleaning.
Safety: will you have a place to go? Do you need to call a shelter? Is there one in your area? Meathead movers can help move you if they are available in your area and usually for free if you’re fleeing abuse. Do you have pets that will need to leave with you? Gather their things as nonchalantly as possible so you can take them.
Emotional: you have been torn down, and brainwashed. You may feel like you are the bad guy here. Have a DV hotline that you can call for help if you think you may have the urge to return. Stockholm syndrome is real, and the brainwashing toxic partners use causes forced trauma bonding. You may feel horrible for leaving, it doesn’t mean it was the wrong decision.
Download Woebot or a similar free CBT app that can help you manage some big emotions, and learn to process trauma, and cope with negative thoughts and emotional spirals.
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Find some where safe and secure to go than leave…