I recently got engaged, but yesterday I found him snapchatting a girl telling her she didn’t need to cut her hair that he liked it long. Had I not snooped on his phone, I’d never found out. I don’t think this is right, and getting married is maybe not what needs to happen, am i right?
No clearly he had other feelings for this female I would be so upset
If you felt the need to snoop on his phone, you probably shouldn’t be engaged. There was a lack of trust before you even found the snaps.
I would not stay engaged
Getting married would be a mistake, this is a huge red flag and will be the reason you divorce him later.
You literally posted this, this morning, the responses you got weren’t the ones you were looking for it seems?
Does he know the girl? It may not be meant in a flirty way i have a friend that is a guy that gives me complements and he is married maybe she mentioned cutting it and he meant he thought it looked better long?
Just talk to him about it and follow your heart
The real question is, why were you snooping?
In all honesty, if you felt the need to snoop you had your answer before you even went there and that tells me one thing. Whatever advice you get today, isn’t going to matter and this is a waste of time. I’m truly not saying that as an insult, I just don’t talk around things.
Don’t get married! Divorce is expensive.
Clearly he is Totally NOT ready for the whole Marriage if he’s doing this kind of Sh!t, I am so sorry you had to find this, But on the other hand it’s better to find out Now rather then after the wedding. I hope you tell him you know he is Not Totally and Completely Honest with you as he Should be, and speak to him and ask Him If he even wants Marriage, if he says Yes he wants to Marry you then tell him it’s not going to work If He Can Not be 100% Honest and Faithful to you and Only you, and if you are going to stay with him please make damn sure that you Make Him EARN your Trust Back.
A Healthy Relationship has to Have :
SUPPORTIVE (for Each other)
LOVE And Most Importantly
COMMUNICATION open and honest Communication is very important
I really hope you think long and hard about your Situation & even more so I hope you Realize you are so Worth it and YOU deserve to be treated with Love, Honesty and Respect.
Prayers everything works out for you.
I’ve had a bad experience with snapchat and my guy doesn’t have it on his phone anymore. Follow your heart.
That is called a red flag!! Run like hell
I hate the comments that try to make the poster feel bad. “Why were you snooping?”
Girl I don’t blame you one bit. So what you wanted to be for sure for sure before entering the contract of marriage. I’m also glad you did because you know he’s an asshat. Girl walk. If he will do it once, he WILL do it again. My ex husband, when we were dating was talking to women online like that. I found out about it. Forgave him. MARRIED HIM. Had kids. And he did it again. I found out 6 years later. Do yourself a favor AND LEAVE. It will hurt. It will suck, but it will be worth it in the end. LEAVE.
If he is already doing that before marriage, what’s going to stop him from doing it after marriage? A ring? Not! And if he will do that on snapchat he will do it on other SM sites if he can get away with it.
Nope . Do not continue
Why are you snooping? Is this a friend? Have they been friends for years? Are you getting pissy n fussing befor you know all the fact? Telling someone he knows that he liked her hair does that mean he wants to fu## her?
If you are looking in his phone you don’t trust him. What if it was just a friend?
If you’re questioning it, having to snoop and then ask people for advice, I feel you already know the answer. Why go into a relationship, let alone a marriage not trusting your partner?
Where theres smoke there is fire. Red flag. Think of it as a blessing u found this now before u got married. Being engaged means fuck all. Just be happy there isn’t children involved and lawyers.