I regret getting married: Advice?

My question is: Do any of you recently married/ married for years wife/husbands feel that you made a mistake by getting married? We’re newly married (August 2019) I love my new husband to death, we’ve been together for 12 and got married on our anniversary. We have two daughters together, and I have a son from a previous relationship. Our oldest is no longer living at home. He’s a great father/ provider/ lover, but… he’s a grouch lol I’ve had two thoughts where I felt that I shouldn’t have married him! Am I wrong? Is it normal to have these thoughts? We’ve been through everything, and I mean everything, and it made our relationship stronger. I’m able to go out with friends and enjoy myself, and so is he. There’s no jealousy or insecurities, which is why I feel bad that I had these two thoughts of him. Please tell me I’m crazy. I have a good man and should be grateful. I mean idk what I mean I feel like a selfish bitch lol Perspectives? Insights? Opinions?

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You been with him that long and just now noticing he’s a grouch after you all got married? Ok then :joy:

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Depends, is it a quick invasive thought or do you find yourself dwelling on it? With most couples i think that thought might slip in occasionally but if you’re dwelling on it you might need to look a bit deeper to figure out the why.

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Haha your crazy! Getting married should only change your last name after 12 years!

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Girl you are just tired and frustrated take from a girl going through a divorce now. You guys will work it out maybe see if his b12 is low? It could be an easy fix for him to feel better. If not then follow your heart and what’s best for you!!

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I have been with my spouse for 14 years. I refuse marriage. Lol

If someone wants a divorce, they can always find reasons to get a divorce. If you want the marriage to work, look for ways to make it better.

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Marriage is better or for worse. You’ve been together for sooo long, I’m sure his grouchy personality isn’t something new. Maybe the stress of the holidays is getting to him. Or you’re just having one of those days! Stay positive, we all have days we question our life choices!

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You sound pregnant. I get crazy when I’m pregnant

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You probably don’t regret it. It’s just a big adjustment. There’s nothing wrong with counseling at any point either so don’t hesitate. And make sure you understand the communication is everything 

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Sounds like y’all/ you need to spice it up a bit… seems like that’s the only problem. Start doing things you’ve never done before… lingerie, a nice hotel stay, road trip, candle light dinner in the backyard… I can think of a lot of different things. I don’t think you regret being married… you only say that because the spark isn’t there

I’ve been with my husband for 11 years and if we have an argument or he does something that pisses me off, that thought slips in my head, but it doesn’t stay there, I’ll think it then forget it. I think everyone thinks that with their partner sometimes, my hubby just likes to push my buttons😂

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Seriously?!:roll_eyes:do you read the posts on here??? I’m feeling grouchy just reading your biggest problem is a grouchy man. Move aside for the people with real issues. Count your blessings lady before you dump a good man and find out what the rest on here already know. Just wow

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Is this serious? You regret marrying him because he’s a grouch? How has marriage made you come to this realization but you’ve been through everything and together for a long time?

My husband can be a grouch too. But I’ve never regretted getting married. Tell him to take a nap or eat something and get over it. Everyone has their days.

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You didn’t notice the grouchiness in the 12 yrs you spent together prior to marriage? My husband and I had been together 11yrs when we got married. I knew what I was getting myself into.

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Nah you’re good it’s just marriage is plenty of times where I felt we should make got married but it was mostly just my own insecurities because we just had two new babies I was a little depressed he was working all the time to try and support our family and it was really stressful but things got better just got to either try to communicate it to stick in it for the Long haul

Appreciate your husband for everything he does, life is short, he might not be there tomorrow.

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Bahahah :joy: only 2 thoughts? Girl… idk why people thing marriage is sunshine and rainbows. In a marriage they will be unhappy times, times of struggle, and times of regret. That’s a marriage. You have been with him 12 years, how has this man not been a grouch before?

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You sound crazy! He seems like a good man it’s just a big change for you!

Honestly ask him why he is so grouchy. Communication. When is the last time you guys did you two, go out for coffee talk laugh be lovers without sexual contact. It happened to us. We needed to let loose and just talk. Marriage is special, but it shouldn’t change who you guys have been or are. Talk about you guys, not about kids or chores or bills stuff that makes you, you. Do you have a hobby? Does he? Talk about something that makes you you and remembering why he fell in love with you and why you fell in love with him. Hope this helps. It won’t happen overnight but it may help. Try. :heart::pray:t2:

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