I smoke and now my daughter pretends her dolls smoke: Advice?

My daughter is three and once a day and usually twice in the evening I go smoke a cigarette…she’s attached at my hip, so it’s hard enough n I didn’t wanna lie so I said I’m going to smoke n now when she plays with dolls the mom doll goes to smoke…she has never seen me smoke, so she doesn’t know what it means or looks like or anything any suggestions on what to do about it? Or I guess any advice on the future …I know I shouldn’t smoke

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Don’t be so hard on your self. Just try to quit and when she’s a little older you can explain why it’s bad for your health. She might not even remember if you do quit that there was even a time when you did smoke!

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You could stop smoking…think of the example you’re setting. You’re not going to fool her for long, and chances are, she will copy you/ pick up your habits in time. I don’t smoke, my kids father did (he always “snuck” cigarettes at night after they went to bed). Guess who smokes? The kids do…

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Smoke when she goes to bed, I smoke CBD oil for seizures and my daughter was starting to pick up pens and pretend to do the same so now I wait until she goes to bed or I go in the bathroom and close the door.

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I’m a smoker and I straight up told my daughter the truth at a young age, smoking is bad especially for kids and can/will make people sick. She never tried to imitate it with dolls though, I told her all that at about 2ish when she asked what my cigarette was. Now she’s 8 and really understands smoking is bad so she never leaves me alone about quitting lol

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You can quit .I did my brothers and sisters did.do it for your baby

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My daughter pretended to smoke a few times and I never did. At that time no one in my family did. I think its somewhat normal.

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They grow out of it … dont do it in view xx

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So my partner had to stop doing it in front of our son. My mom isn’t allowed to do it around any of her grand kids.

Our only option was to stop allowing it in front of the kids.

My mom smoked and out of three kids I was the only one who would touch them.

Make sure (obviously) that they are out of her reach.

Second, try to find a way to distract while you are smoking.

Third, if you can use the patches or lissenges instead during the day, then do that.

I started using the juul since it was quite a bit easier to hide.

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Maybe you should try to stop so your daughter doesn’t ever want to try it when she gets older. Not trying to be mean, but she may be your reason to consider it.

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Our children are sponges. Its hard to stop, but if it bothers you maybe you should try? Not saying you have to but she’s going to imitate it no matter what and because you do it she sees nothing wrong about it.

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My mom was a two pack a day smoker. My sister picked it up, I didn’t. All kids are different. Be honest.

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I smoke and I dont allow people to smoke around him or say the words for smoking (I’m on my way to quitting so the less exposure the better. But if they know what you are doing and seems to understand the just of what you are doing explain it is bad and that ciggerattes are harmful you could use the mommy doll as an example and tell her if the mommy doll keeps smoking shell get sick

I’m a smoker and my daughter is now 25 shes never smoke, it how you raise them, and then it’s their choice when they are old enough.

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You’re setting the example. My mom was a smoker. I was not. You can tell her it’s not for children or dolly’s to do. Or tell her it’s unhealthy and you are going to stop. Then quit.

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I’m not going to tell you to stop smoking because it seems like a lot of people are telling you that. I grew up in a house we’re both my parents moved my husband grew up the same way. We were told growing up you don’t smoke and we always ask well if you do why can’t I. To this day we don’t smoke. My parents currently live with us and my dad still smokes my mom has not smoked in over 20 years. My kids see my dad smoke outside. My oldest three are all teenagers and they know that they already don’t want to smoke because they say it’s disgusting. My 5-year-old she doesn’t think anything about it. All she knows is that when grandfather goes outside to smoke she can go outside and play on her swing set. I would just tell your daughter that it’s not a good habit for her baby dolls to pretend to smoke.

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I smoke and so does my boyfriend (my daughter’s dad!) our daughter is 4 and she doesn’t know we smoke! We don’t do it around her! And if we are home, we take turns going out and just say “mommy is going outside or daddy is going outside!” One day we can talk about it, but it’s not necessary right now!

Unm, stop smoking. If you are worried about being a bad role model, then you already know the answer.

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Kids know more than you think consider quitting It’s not easy but you can do it

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When my son started mimicking me smoke thats when i knew it was time to quit. So hard but worth it

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