Hi, any mums/dads on here that no longer with the kid’s biological father/mother. How do you go about being in a new relationship when you have full custody off your child/children without it becoming a complete issue with the biological father as i have just got into a new relationship i don’t intend on introducing him to my little girl until I feel the time is right but I think her father will have something to say about it even though it will make him two-faced as he brought a lady onto contact and denied she was anything to do with him which later down the line it comes out that she was his girlfriend, and also it turned out it was his girlfriend that did everything for our child whilst on contact with him, so he’s happy to introduce his girlfriends to our child but I have a strange feeling that I just cant seem to shake off he isn’t going to be happy about me introducing our child to anyone I am in a relationship with. Please no bashing any good advice will be extremely appreciated
First of all you have to stand on your two feet .
You are no longer with. Ex.
If he has anything to say about it
We call that still controling you.
Move on with you life.
Because he sure will
Dont work yourself up over something that hasn’t happened yet.
Once you’re ready to introduce the new guy to your little, then I would consider how the ex will respond. Even then, maybe just let it go in passing that you’ve started a new relationship and be clear with the fact new dude ain’t around the little yet.
Orrr just do you and fuck what the ex has to think about it hes an EX and sorry not sorry but your ex doesn’t get to stipulate your dating life.
Why are his feelings any of your concern? Seems like he’s still controlling you, you have a right to your life and you certainly don’t need his permission
Who cares what he thinks… He was a new girlfriend so you can have a new boyfriend. Let him get his knickers in a twist if he wants
Question is why do you even care?
Co parenting is tough. If you really want to do it a “proper” way… when the time is right, maybe introduce you boyfriend to your child’s father first. Remember all the things you didn’t like about the way his father handled a new girlfriend and remind yourself not be a hypocrite. What’s best for this child is to be comfortable and happy and not feeling like he’s in the middle of childish petty baby mama/ baby daddy drama. A new person in both of your lives= more people who love n care for you child
In my situation my daughter’s father keeps switching girlfriends every 3-6 months and dragging my little girl into it. His current one already thinks she’s got rights to my daughter but is about to find out how wrong she is. Meanwhile I’ve been married to the same man for 7 years and my kids didn’t just meet him after a week of dating. I have a problem with the amount of random people being paraded around my child. I don’t know them, how they are, what they might do. So I tend to have a problem with new people. Just my opinion🤷
I totally get it. My ex left me for a 22yo while I was pregnant. She was always “a friend.” All the girls he saw after were “friends.” . Let him go. Stop worrying about what he thinks. Live your life. Do what’s best for you and your child. I’m currently dating a wonderful man now for 3 years. We moved in with each other last year. My ex still hasn’t met him . Your job is to take care of you. You no longer have to worry about his feelings. Period.
If you are taking your time about it and you feel like it’s something that could be long term , why do you even care what he says ? As long as your kid is your priority and not your vagina , who cares.
It’s your self-esteem.
Be more concerned with how your child is going to feel about it than how your ex is going to react. You are probably correct that he won’t like it. It’s not his decision though, it’s yours and as long as you keep your child as your main concern then the rest will fall into place. I hope it goes well no matter what you decide and just know that you are entitled to have companionship in your life. Being a mother doesn’t exclude you from having romance.
So you’re ASSUMING without even having a conversation with him and asking strangers. No wonder you aren’t together. You’re over here complaining about how he handled a girlfriend yet you’re basically doing the same thing. Realize folks we’re all only getting one side of the side story here. It’s also about the well being and safety of your child. How comfortable is she going to be?
His feelings are not your concern. It’s nice of you to think that but he did not take yours into consideration. From experience handle it like a business arrangement. Offer to introduce, warn the blood father that you will be Introducing someone eventually. See if he wants to meet and handle it differently. But do not allow him to manipulate your relationship. He has his spouse/gf around the child and so can you. You don’t need anyone permission.
It’s your business not his .he sounds like he has control issues with you. And make sure you keep a close eye and protect you child with your new relationships good luck👍
There is nothing wrong with taking his feelings into consideration but at the same time its ultimately up to you and your child. Every parent should consider the other no matter what, I definately feel maybe meeting the child first is always good. Just from personal experience anyway. My biggest concern was always what my daughter thought if she/he doesn’t feel comfortable with that person 90% its for a good reason. There is always the chance the child will just not like someone else bc its not their parent but kids do tend to have a good feeling about someone as far as a creep factor. You hace to do whats right for you and your child no matter what…good luck to you momma
I think your making assumptions and maybe over thinking…as you say your not going to introduce your child to him yet …if he does say anything give him a gentle reminder of his behaviour? At the end of the day it’s your child who is the priority not your ex or his girlfriend …good luck
At the end of the anything he has to say about your relationships means nothing, it’s not his business, do what makes u happy
Who the hell is he when he wasn"t there for her ever even never & just depicted a man of his own virtue…but even although I leave that with her & her understanding of the inbetween between you & him…Are you going to dwell the past into your own future & complicate it or better leave them to decide as adults & or your taught upbringing to result a lonely self of you as men may despise of themselves as a father figure but as an a ex-husband father disfigure what you want…I know it’s hard but your kids grow fonder to the heart that was there for them most & dad just wasn’t & even if screw him you need love & more too why spoil it for a man just because he was dad but never true…seriously he is out of the equation let them deal with it any other way would be a no go zone ijs but for real now…I would talk to my child & try to make them understand…their dad should have no interference unless the child sees otherwise fit & not judge the mother espescially when she was there for the child & upbringing more than just he was & he just didn’t fulfill his role as a dad so what obligation is that screw muslim law or even white supremacy we are human respect is far most & should be the uppermost respected espescially women…
I’m not a parent but I believe that it should be your choice when to introduce the little ones to your new partner… obviously not at first since you don’t know where the relationship is going but after some time of getting to know each other and deciding if they’re the one for you then that’ll be the right time… I think you’ll know when the time is right and it’s not up to the biological father when that time should be, if you want to be respectful of him then maybe give him a heads up when it’s time but really I think it’s all on you and when YOU think the time is right… good luck and I wish the best for all parties!