I think my partners family is toxic: What should I do?

I’m stuck on what to do; I don’t want my partner’s family involved with my daughter until she can decide for her self. I believe my partner’s family is toxic for multiple reasons, and I don’t feel like my daughter or myself is safe with them. I was 15 when I conceived my daughter turned 16 whilst pregnant my partners family tried pressuring me into having an abortion when I refused they turned against me my MIL made my partner move home and filled his head with lies about me she wouldn’t let me over and wouldn’t let him out to see me. I went to her house to pick up some of my stuff, and she had a go at me yelling till her face was red, so I apologized and left my partner defended me and left with me. Since that day, I have been receiving nasty messages from his whole family I’m now at a point where I feel uncomfortable down the street in case I bump into them. I’ve tried so hard with his family especially his mum she wouldn’t talk to me my entire pregnancy then as soon as she heard I was in the hospital she was right there… only for pictures for Facebook she announced the birth of my daughter before my partner and I got a chance to tell anyone. From the moment my daughter was born, she’s tried to control her upbringing, trying to make me use formula instead of breastfeeds. She has always been toxic. She had dhs involved with her so many times because of abuse and neglect towards her own kids. I’ve seen her hit my partner and her other granddaughter. His family is filled with alcoholics and strong drug users I don’t want that brought around my daughter. That’s not even half of it, so should I keep my daughter from his family for her safety or not?

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Yes! Keep her away from all that & yourself.

Do what’s best for your daughter, you’re the mother it’s your job to keep her safe, not satisfy the in-laws. You’re doing the right thing momma.

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Children always grow best away from toxic people. Trust your gut mama

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Not even a question really. This is YOUR child so do what is right for her

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If you don’t feel like your daughter is safe with them, you don’t have to let them in her life. Make sure your partner agrees, you don’t want to stir up bad emotions with him.
Don’t not let them see her, but I wouldn’t leave her alone with them.

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Yes you should!!! Keep you and your baby safe!!!

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Nope nope nope, I wouldn’t allowing it. And I could tell my husband you can see your family as much as you want but my child and myself aren’t gonna be involved or around his toxic family

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A lot of people get involved in these horrible situations that really create so much unnecessary heartache and drama in their lives because of this implied obligation. You don’t need to explain to them or anyone else how, what, why you raise your child.

She’s yours. As long as you are independent from them take the break and don’t let them in until they’ve learned how to act.

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Oh dear LORD…that sucks love I am so sorry!! I…um…well I’m mean and protective and would put ALL OF EM in their place quick and then just stay tf away!!

Yes. If they are toxic to you. They are toxic to her. It’s your child. You don’t have to allow anyone to be in her life the only two people that are truly important is mom and dad.

I would discuss it with your partner first because that’s the respectable thing to do but my secondary advice, cut all ties with them for now, or permanently. You can’t have people like that around your children, if they’re toxic to you, it’s likely they’ll be toxic to your children. Good luck!

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Um yeah. Is that even a question?

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Absolutely keep her away. You can’t replace your child if something were to happen! Prevention is Key!

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At the end of the day that is her family. However, you do not HAVE to involve them. You can always tel her that’s her family, show photos, allow them over to your place under supervision if you’re comfortable, etc. but you you do not HAVE to allow them to be around her if you feel it is a safety issue. This is something that may come between you and your partner, but should be brought up and you should both decide because it is his daughter as well as yours and you must come to an agreement about how to handle the situation. Set boundaries and be stern on them. Stand your ground. It is YOUR child not theirs.

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Definitely keep her away. It is an unsafe environment.

You, your daughter and boyfriend should stay as far away from them as possible!!!

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Oh no they would not be around and I would be Filing restraining orders with all the proof of the texts if that’s possible .

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Keep away. And of you feel scared or threatened by them file a restraining order.

You already know the answer to your queation. You guys need to move away from all that.

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