I told this guy I have been seeing about my genital herpes and now he doesn't want to be with me: Advice?

I’ve been seeing this really great guy for a few weeks. Our kids have played and met, and it’s been great. I dropped a bomb on him and told him I have genital herpes that my ex gave me. He was as nice as could be about it but said that he wants to put off sex with me. He said he’s 50/50 about it. But either way, he wants to remain friends and do stuff with the kids. I can’t do that. It would.hurt to much knowing he’s not with me just because of that. How long do I go on “waiting?” this is awkward, and I’m crushed.

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Wow … well you know he won’t stick with u tho the bad times … move on

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1st of all a few weeks is way to early to get kids involved, 2nd of all use condoms. 3 move on

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What exactly do you expect from someone who doesn’t have it… To catch it just to be with you​:woman_facepalming:t5::woman_shrugging:t5::no_good_woman:t5:would u sleep with your ex knowingly if he had it​:tipping_hand_woman:t5:

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you either walk away or wait as long as he wants you to wait, its a condition that does not go away. He deserves the right to carefully weigh his decision before he puts himself at risk of contracting it. The fact that he still wants to hangout and get the kids together shows he is invested in you as a person (not sexually). If you cant live without sex in the immediate future move on, but if you want a respectable guy who doesnt prioritize sex as the most important thing, wait it out and see where the relationship takes you.

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I mean you have to understand no one willingly wants to catch an STD… comes with the territory.

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Could check out dating sites for those with same condition…

Herpes is more common than people realize. 1-5, but only about 1-15 have knowledge of there disease. I caught it from someone who lied to me.:cry:Honesty is still the best policy, to me. If they want to be with you they will be regardless.

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you do not have to be perfect to be lovable. Respect how the man feels and move on. And I’m also going to say that I agree with everyone who said that a few weeks is very very very very early to be involving the kids. You need to make sure someone’s going to stick around before dragging your kids in

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I feel like that’s going to be the majority of the responses you get after telling someone that. He’s not going to go forward into an intimate relationship. Perhaps you can find a group or dating app for individuals with herpes so there’s no need to go through this again.

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Move on he doesn’t have to be with you. The end

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Keep it moving, Sis. You’ll find someone that will accept you and everything about you. If you take antivirals on a daily basis, there would be an extremely low chance that they would ever contract the virus…some people just need to be educated.

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walk away, he has issues with the news and that will not go away. Stop waiting!

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Sounds like a no bone zone to me

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Well it just shows he wasnt the right one for you. The right one will come along until then enjoy life with the nost important person your child

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Take him to the dr with you and get him educated and he can ask all the questions he wants. Maybe when he’s informed he’ll feel better.

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Stop dragging the kids into it , especially so quickly he doesn’t want you move on.

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I’m glad you were honest. Don’t feel bad just move on

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Kudos on being honest but you can’t expect everyone to be accepting of it. Respect his time and his decision.

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I’m sorry this happened to you by your ex, but you have to disclose this info before ever sleeping with anyone. The sooner you do the less hurt for you in the future. Just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t mean they do. Les hurt if you speak up in the beginning and research what you have and how to protect others, that will go further with a partner than what you have. Give them the choice to proceed if they wish. Meantime, if he wants to be friends for now, take it, friends are hard to come by and maybe he has some feelings but he needs time to digest the info. Take sex off the table, you both have kids involved and this is no longer about you or him. Good Luck!

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