I want more kids and my husband doesn't: Advice?

I am my husband’s second wife. He had three children in his first marriage. We now have two together- equaling five together. All five children are the same sex. The husband refuses any more children, while I desperately want one more. Any thoughts or advice? How can a couple of compromise on something that is the polar opposite? (Financially we can afford all of our children)

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Time to get a divorce and find someone willing to have another child.

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If he won’t do it, someone else will. :woman_shrugging: #worldsworstfact

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You didnt know that before you married him?

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Ok I’m sure she doesnt want to get a divorce… they already have 2 together plus his other kids.

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5 kids is a lot of kids.

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My husband didn’t for the longest time. We talked extensively about it. We came to an agreement that we would try for one more but we’d wait till our others were in school and older. We compromised. After this one we are done. It took time but when he realized how much I really honestly wanted one more he came around.

One of you will get what they want. The other won’t. Figure out what will work best for your family.

If one partner doesn’t want more, you shouldn’t have more, imo. You can certainly keep discussing it, but a child deserves 2 parents that want him or her.

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Can you support another child?

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He’s supporting 7 people…money only goes so far. Child support rent, bills clothes car car insurance food the list is endless

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He doesn’t want more so that’s the end of the discussion. If you’re that desperate for more kids, divorce him and attempt to find a new man who is willing to take on you, your kids, and have a new baby. In the process you’ll uproot your children from their seemingly well lives and inflict quite a bit of childhood trauma. But you’ll get that new baby in the process and that’s all that matters to you so it’s all good :roll_eyes:

He doesn’t want anymore and had 2 with you. There is no way to compromise a child. Also you should never have a child with someone who doesn’t want to. I think he’s perfectly in his right to say no more and you should respect that. Not having kids and asking for more kids is different. Get over it and get a puppy. Stop forcing more responsibility on the guy he already supports 7 people. Sheesh.

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Have a heart to heart. Why do you want more and why does he not. Honestly, with him having 5, he is probably ready for freedom and not having a baby anymore. The countdown to being able to do bigger family things without packing half the house may be in his mindset.

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Of one says no it’s the winner. Why break up the family it is already complied enough.

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That’s a lot of kids. I don’t blame him for not wanting 6. You knew how many kids he had when you dated him so it can’t come to a crazy surprise that he doesn’t want more.

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Damn some of this advice is crazy! :joy: I would find out his reason why he doesn’t want to have another child and if there is a way of compromising then hopefully you both can consider it. I think sometime it’s just the matter of time. Give him a year or two to reconsider. How old is the youngest?

I’m absolutely terrified for my family right now with everything going on in the world. I’m scared to death for my 2yr old when I have to take him to the store with me without a choice. I love kids and I wouldn’t mind having more myself. But Having a baby should be the last thing on our minds! At least till this virus can be controlled or gone! Doctors and nurses have enough to deal with already! :mask::anguished:

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I suggest fostering children that will fulfill your needs

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By compromise you mean how can you get what you want? Because this is a situation where it’s either have another child or dont. Perhaps take into consideration his feelings as well…

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