I want more kids but fear they won't be as easy as my first: Thoughts?

I have a question for the mamas. I’m a mom of one baby. She’s the most well-behaved baby, and parenting is so easy and fun with her. Everything is perfect. My husband and I want two more kids. I have this fear that having another baby might ruin everything. Like what if the next baby is the unruly and needy and total opposite of my baby? Of course, I will love any of my babies, no matter what their personality is, that’s not what I’m asking or worried about. But I feel like the decision to have another baby is harder than the decision to have one baby. I’m just worried that it will disrupt the flow of what we have going, like my baby’s sleep schedule, which is 12 hours through the night. But I can’t imagine not having any more kids. Has anyone else felt this way or worried about this?

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I started with the crazy one :joy: I still want more kids so I think it will be okay​:heart: good luc

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Mom of 3, plus one on the way… Space them out a lil bit if you can…That is all. Best of luck!

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Oh, it will :100: disrupt your flow, know that!

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Every child is different for starters… but of course you already know that. Both my boys are wild. I have a 4 year old and a 14 month old. My four year old wasn’t as wild as my second child, there is definitely never a dull moment in my home, they certainly keep me on my toes and I generally am 10 steps ahead of their shenanigans…good luck to you however!

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I had these same doubts but in the end I felt like it was worth the risk. I fully expect everything to get a bit turned on its head when our new baby gets here but as the old adage says “Why not go out on a limb? That’s where the fruit is.”

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I didn’t even think of it, I just had more, and more and more lol I have 5… And now I want to run away… I feel like 3 would have been plenty haha last two have many issues, diagnosis and what not, so it’s a damn struggle, especially being single…

The first baby being amazing always gets ya.

Don’t do it it’s a trap :joy::joy: Just kidding its great . I have 3 and sometimes it can be a lot but your programmed to just take it as it comes . But seriously the more you have the less they give a dam :joy::joy::joy:

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Every child should have a sibling. When my husband died my children had each other and that bond cannot be broken

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My second is POLAR OPPOSITE of my first. He gets into EVERYTHING :laughing: my first was sweet, quiet, content. My second is a wild child and has been since he started rolling at 3 weeks old.
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Wait… I mean it’s great! <— that’s what you want to hear right? Lol :joy:

Mum of eight and if I had waited more than 2 yrs between having my babies it would have been harder. No two kids are the same no matter how many you have, and no one can ever prepare for the unborn child. I will say my first was a breeze 2nd born was more clingy and feisty I then had twin boys which were a breeze to carry, birth and raise…until they became teens haha my next 2 were one of each lol a breeze then feisty and ‘needy’ more than the others. Then baby 7 came along he was an easy baby but is becoming a handful as I would imagine with a big family lol and baby girl #8 is sooo chilled and loving that if I no longer needed my sanity I would have another :rofl: #YesSameDadLol

This is a trick of mother nature. You have been blessed with an angel and the trick is that you now think you can handle this thing called motherhood but watch out, your second born is going to be a no-limit soldier that likes to pinch and slap. :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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My first was a saint. My second is a hellion. Do I want another? Yes

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My first and second are night and day. But I wouldn’t change it. My first was well behaved super sweet quick learner. While my second is independent stubborn wild and adventurous! I wouldn’t change it tho. It’s fun having them be opposites. It helps them both to explore things outside of their comfort zones together and help each other. And I get the best of both worlds! Yeah my second is a handful and a goof but he makes my days better. My first helps me out when I’m not feeling so hot. She loves to help me feel better. It’s worth having a wild child! They bring out the best in us

I have 4 it’s my 3rd child I have trouble with lol

Same doubts and my 2nd is a wild, non sleeping, rambunctious, stink… wouldn’t have it any other way. He disrupts everything everyone in the house is doing but I’m soooooooo thankful I have him. It’s fun to see the different personalities of the kids you create. Don’t let it scare you.

My kids are about 8 years apart. My first, was the PERFECT baby…now he is a psycho :joy:. My youngest (10mo) is also a crazy clingy boobie psycho… Sooo yeah…
May the odds be ever in your favor.

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My best friend had her first much like you then her second came 5 years later and shook her life upside down .
I adopted my two so I got them at the same time both very dif but both vary good . They were brother and sister and had been my niece and nephew before becoming my fabulous children. So you never know . If your happy stay as is and just enjoy other kids be a awesome aunt so your girl will have playmates ect…

As an only child myself, give that baby a sibling