I don’t like my husband- but I don’t trust him with my kids if we separate or get divorced they would be well looked after on his time. He drinks to the point that he pees himself - at least once a month. And will be lighting huge fires in the backyard while drinking. Doesn’t hear the kids wake up. Doesn’t watch them if they are near fires in the yard. He isn’t nice to my mom at all- she lives hours away, so when she visits, she stays for a while- she cleans, buys us groceries, watches the kids, and is amazing. He feels uncomfortable when she’s here bc he doesn’t like her, so he is just rude and not nice. It drives me insane. He isn’t a good dad most of the time. He will cook dinner but is obnoxious about it- like look; I did all of this work…reward me. I am really close with my mom and family, so this is hard for me. He’s changed since we got married - his friends don’t even invite him out anymore. I went to marriage counseling, and he only showed up to 1 session and said he’s never going back. The councilor thinks he’s depressed. I met with a lawyer, and I probably wouldn’t win full custody bc I can’t prove all of his drinkings. Has anyone else been in this predicament? What do I do? I know I’m not in a happy, loving relationship but at least I’m here protecting my kids from his awful qualities
Start keeping a journal of his behavior. Include dates and times. That log will serve as a record and proof
Start documenting it. Dont tell him you are leaving until you get thorough video evidence of this. Protect your babeis
You can have it so he has supervised visits or that he cant drink when the kids are in his care.
Start secretly recording him when he’s drunk! (For evidence) I wouldn’t want someone like that alone with my children either
Wtf dont ever let him have them alone
Does someone else buy his alcohol? Start grabbing his receipts.
Take video. Record sound.
All I can suggest is to keep seeking all legal services to get the help and safety you need for you kids because the safety of your kids needs to come first, I hope and wish you the best hun must be very hard and frustrating for you
wait til he’s shitface drunk and call an ambulance for a welfare check. After 10 times of doing this, you have the proof in the charges and medical records.
I haven’t been in this situation but I would say record your recollection of his drunk behavior all of this should be tracked and if you can wait it out just a little while do so. So you can protect your children.
Start recording his drunk episodes, save text conversations and so on. Protect the kids if you leave him.
Start writing things down in a notebook. Document day and time with details of the incident at the time. Get friends or family members as witnesses on your behalf. Also if your children are old enough to say what things are going on
Record EVERYTHING. It will help you.
It’s almost impossible to get full custody unless there’s any kind of abuse is the only way unless he chooses not to have visitation
Move out for a while get you and your kids a place and wait until he takes you to court…
Maybe he’s depressed and drinking because he’s unhappy in the marriage too.
Start recording him before you do leave his obviously jealous of your mum she provides better and he is threatened by that you don’t need to put up with that
He probably won’t sue for custody anyways
Id say leave and go back to ur parents, i dont Think He would fight u for custody if hes like that