My son is getting married in 6 months. With Covid19 upon us, the wedding is being cut back to drastic extremes. I have been advised that from his side of the family, only his dad and I will be invited to their destination wedding. (I have two children) Her parents, three siblings, siblings, partners, and siblings’ children will also be there. His father and I have been apart for over ten years. I have been with my man for eight years, living with him for six years. The bride’s three siblings will have their significant others at the wedding and have been together for less than three years. There are no issues between his dad and I nor with his dad and my new man. I want to see my son get married to my man by my side. What’s a mother to do?
I don’t see why you wouldn’t be able to bring your boyfriend when her side of the family are allowed to have their significant others. I would let your son know your position and bring your boyfriend.
You say there are no issues between your ex and you as well as your ex and your bf. But what about your bf and your son? It seems like that issue is less cut and dry right?
If your bf is intentionally being left out, I feel like your child may have their reasons for doing that, even if it is covid related. You can’t force someone to invite someone they don’t want there. This is gonna be something you guys need to sit down and discuss.
Sounds like bride isnt allowing your sons family. I would ask why .
Have you talked to him about it? Let him know it’s important to you?
Ask them kindly if it would be Ok to bring you boyfriend.but if they say no drop it and do as they wish.times are stressful enough.dont give Them any added stress. Its their day.
Respect your sons decision, it’s his wedding after all not yours, your son and his soon to be wife get to choose the guests they want at their wedding.
It sounds like there is some info left out of this post. Has your BF and your other child have past issues with your son or his fiance. This may not just be her choice although it is easier to blame her without knowing anything. Either way you need to ask your son or realize there is more going on than you care to admit.
Your son obviously doesn’t like you’re partner and unfortunately you should respect his decision. I mean what are u going to do? Miss ur sons wedding because ur partner can’t go?.
If you and your boyfriend are paying your own way, what’s the problem?
I mean if the bride and groom are paying for the wedding they can invite whoever.
If your invite said "&guest " then by all means bring him along and don’t question it. Don’t make a mountain out a molehill.
It’s not your wedding, therefore not anyone’s business why anyone was or wasn’t invited. Maybe they expected him to be your plus 1? I would maybe bring it up but not make it a huge deal
pay their way no questions asked
It’s not your wedding. You don’t get choose who’s invited. All you can do is either accept the invite & go without your boyfriend. Or decline. Your son is a grown man. You don’t get to make choices for him.
I’d just talk to him about it. I’d also advocate for your other child, his sibling to be there. He should have his immediate family too. But also its his wedding so remember he and his bride gets the final say.
Easily answered. It’s not your wedding. “I wants” don’t count.
If you feel strongly about bringing your SO to the destination wedding then perhaps bring him to the destination but not the actually wedding ceremony itself. Then you two do yourselves AFTER your sons wedding. But honestly, there’s probably more of a reason why your son doesn’t want your SO there. I’d get to the root of the problem
Not your day… it’s theirs… their rules
Whose wedding is it anyway?