I'm in an unhappy marriage: Advice?

So I have been married for 12 years, and I am unhappy I have been for years. My husband and I are pretty much roommates cause he never can show me love or caring he does not communicate with me it seems that if I need to talk to him I have to write a letter and when he reads it he never says anything.i do not even feel like a wife and he never makes me feel like one.i have told him that my love for him is gone over the years. I want out but can not afford to leave. We sleep in separate rooms cause he never gives me a reason to be in the same room, he just will not want to seem to change.how can I stay with someone who has no love or affection or caring for me. What should I do? I deserve happiness in my life, and right now, I am not as long as I stay.

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Take the loss and leave. Life is too short to live like that.

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I’m not married at all but can you stay there and kick him out?

Sit down and have the talk. Does he want to change and you to make it work or not? Go from there. Hope it works out for you hon

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I love it how this person portrays it as though all the marital problems are due to the husband.

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Get a full time job save up the money and move out. Personally if I was the bread winner and I was not getting any love from the other half I would go my separate way so be glad that he is providing a home for you while still having no physical relationship. I’m not sure how you both are but it sounds like you’re putting the full blame on him when it comes to affection and communication but it takes two

Sorry…but no matter how flat you make a pancake…it still has 2 sides. And if you are that miserable…then you need to get out…

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Sounds like you can’t afford to stay. Get an attorney

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Just leave, you will work it out. Life is too short to be unhappy.

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I agree have the talk if you cant afford to leave…does he want to make it work or end it? If he does want to and you think it’s worth a shot I would say try counseling. I’m sure you have faults as well. What went wrong…and when…why? Etc. If you don’t want to try the best thing to do is leave…you’ll come up with the money if you are that unhappy

For better or worse not til I don’t want too if it’s been years you both have changed it’s not all on one relationships takes 2

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Save up money & leave !

As someone who has been married twice I assure you that the problem isn’t just with your husband. Sometimes you have to look at yourself and recognize your own faults as well. With that being said it does sound like this marriage is over. And when a marriage is over whether it’s affordable or not it’s time to leave. Things will never get better for you if YOU don’t make it happen. Leaving a marriage or relationship of any kind is never easy. But it is a part of life and unfortunately needs to happen sometimes. If you have children that makes it more important to leave. Children know when they’re parents aren’t ok and it affects them too.

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You have already answered your own question. Leave do yourselves both a favor. But remember making and breaking a marriage takes 2. Good luck

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Honey, RUN!
I gave up millions to be free and happy. You can recuperate the loss of stuff.
But not your soul…
RUN. Heal, and love yourself.

Leave x you deserve to be much happier and so does he

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For me is communicating is the key thing. As you he wants some to desire and want him as well. We can only be accountable for our own feeling so say to him I want you, I desire you I want to feel like the woman your passions over flow for. And if he gives nothing back then leave but first try.

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I think you have answered your own question.

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The part, he never gives me a reason to stay in the same room. Do you give him a reason? Sounds like this is a two way street and she’s blaming him for everything.

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There’s always a way out. Dig deeper.

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