I'm pregnant, on medical bed rest and have no support system: What should I do?

I am currently 6 1/2 months pregnant. My ex-partner left when I was ten weeks, and I am really struggling. We had a fantastic relationship and went through a bad patch for like two weeks a lot of people got involved, and it ended really badly. I’ve been very ill since I got pregnant I somehow got pulmonary embolisms. He hasn’t come to see me in the hospital nor attended any appointments. I have probably over contacted him to try and keep him involved. I hate the thought of my baby not being raised in a happy household. So then this week I received a solicitor’s letter stating to please stop contacting my client that I even called him 14 times in one day ( I did regrettably do this the day I was admitted to the high dependency unit with the blood clots). It also states he will be a dedicated father once the baby is born and has “reserved any parental rights” I just don’t understand I’ve been nothing but probably too nice to him since we spilled. It’s worth noting I moved countries for this relationship so my support network is minimal and I’m really struggling. It doesn’t help I’ve been put on sick leave till after the baby is born, so the days are long. I just want to make things as amicable as possible or has it just gone past that? It’s really destroying me. I just want support and someone to be there with me through this my heart breaks for the baby. I can’t move home as I can’t travel for medical reasons. Any advice, please?

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Do you have any family or friends that could help you?

Can you find a doula? At least then you’d have someone to lean on.

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Keep that paper for sure. Forget about the worries of him and worry about you and the baby

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Take care of yourself and your baby and let that man go.

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Cut him off. Fuck that

I would move home. Either way you are in a very unhealthy situation. Best to have your medical providers help you in going back home.

I can probably guarantee he is going to take you to court for full custody and use your medical issues and your “stalking” behavior to demonstrate your instability.

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I don’t think you had a strong and “fantastic” relationship if two weeks of hardship broke you up. Sometimes we need to be really honest with ourselves in order to move forward and move on.

I would stop calling him. Can any of your family come to you to help you through this? Or a friend? Are there any doulas around your area? Sometimes you might be able to find one that will help you because of your situation.

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Stop contacting him, he’s already issued an order.

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What state are you in? I am willing to help and keep you company if in the Dallas area…I’ve been in your shoes, i know how you feel

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You need to stop messaging and calling him. After baby is here, move home if at all possible. That man got a lawyer. Hes probably going to try to get you for harrassment if you keep bothering him.

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The hospital should have patient advocates that can help. As a nurse.

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I would move home. You are going to need family to help you through this.

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Wow - that is an extreme response on his part. Move home now if at all possible. Once the baby is born he can make it difficult for you to do so.

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Move in from him if he don’t want to be bother or have anything to do with this child don’t force him too take care of yourself and let that man go

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Forget him…you don’t need that type of cruel person in your life at all!

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Maybe if you move back close to home would you have a better support system. It sounds like he may not ne a good father figure if he doesnt want to have anything to so with you or the pregnancy at all. Sometimes it’s better to raise the kid without a father than with a bad father.

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If he doesn’t care to go to appointments or ask about the baby, I would just cut him out. Don’t tell him when it’s born, how it is, anything. He can make that effort.

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Get a lawyer and move the hell on

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He got a lawyer. Move home before that baby is born.

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