Intimacy during pregnancy

I am 5 months pregnant. I know my husband loves me, but sometimes he says things that hurt me. He will not be intimate with me once I get a certain size in pregnancy. He says he just can’t “get in the mood,” and its “weird.” Has anyone else gone through this? It really makes me feel so bad about myself. I try not to take it to heart, but how can you not when you already feel low about yourself?

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Your husband is idiot!

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Tell him he needs to get over himself. He needs to grow and and see how beautiful you are while his child is growing within you.

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It’s an awkward stage. U yourself might not feel in the mood.

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Tell him to quit acting like a child.

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Is he your first kid? Actin like a child smh

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I don’t have any advice for you but I wish I could say something to help you and/or to make you feel better :confused: However I am very sorry that he is acting like an immature little boy & making you feel bad about yourself, specially at a time when your self-esteem is already lower then it normally is!!! The issue is him my dear, NOT you!!!

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I went through that and honestly we were never close again after that. Talk to him and try to let him know how you feel. I ended up divorced. But I’m a million times happier now than I ever was with him. So just think about your relationship and try to plan for the future you want and see if he can see how he hurt you and fix it. Maybe counseling too. Good luck hun :purple_heart::purple_heart:

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Blindfold and then throw him on the bed

I understand the reason you feel hurt, but some men just DONT like having sex with their woman when they’re pregnant. It’s weird for them because their child is inside you, my boyfriend is the same way. Your husband could definitely execute his feelings differently, but you can’t make him feel bad for how he feels. I doubt it has anything to do with the way you LOOK. Just communicate with him. Have a conversation about it. You can’t force him to do something he doesn’t want to do, as he should respect you as well

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Shallow man… Forget him, love yourself first, more you do, the more confidence & lack of concern you’ll have about shallow comments & actions towards you xx.

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Lots of men feel that way , the same as many women do when they are pregnant don’t take it to heart .

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That’s not right if he loves you he will understand I am currently 7 months pregnant and I feel insecure I’m sure every women does and he should support you and understand you are carrying his baby I would have a conversation with him yes you get bigger and it gets complicated to be intimate but he put the baby there he is either there to love you whole pregnancy big belly and all or he’s not worth it in my opinion best of luck :blush:

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that is extremely childish. and i honestly feel sorry for you.

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Awww don’t feel bad. I kinda feel the same way. Im 25w and sometimes i don’t want to bc i think its weird that i feel the baby kicking but s/o is trying to have sex. Lol it feels as if the baby is laying right next to me. Also maybe he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable. My last pregnancy my s/o stopped having sex with me once i was 8 months. I asked him about it recently and he said he stopped bc he thought I’d be uncomfortable. He never asked but just assumed.

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Sometimes men are afraid they’ll hurt you or the baby during sex and he may just have low labedo which has nothing to do with you. It’s a hormonal imbalance. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

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Nope. I cant get my hubby off of me prego or not

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You should talk to him and let him know how he’s making you feel. Sometimes men make comments that they think are funny but can be cutting especially at a time when we are emotional. Often they don’t even realize how they are making as feel. Positive vibes. :heart:

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Don’t feel bad about yourself, you are carrying LIFE.

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Some people, men and women don’t like the idea of having sex when pregnant :woman_shrugging:t2: some fear it’ll hurt the baby or it’s just to weird for them.

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