Is 23 to old to start over?

Hi all! I’m 23 with a five-year-old. I’ve been with her dad for about six years… it’s been very rocky as I’veI’s caught him cheating. I obviously forgave him time and time again… well, come tonight; we got into a fight because he was trying to go to a friend’s house with a bunch of girls, and one of the girls I caught him flirting and talking to a while back… it’s obvious he doesn’t want me, and I’m accepting it. Is 23 too late to start over moving back in with parents? I want to attend college for two years, and my little one will finally be in kindergarten so I wouldn’t have to worry about a child care bill anymore… I want to go to college to get a better-paying job than customer service, but I feel too old. I just need some opinions and maybe some life experiences from other mommas… please be kind as I know staying has not been wise.

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It’s never too old to start over mama. You are exactly where you are meant to be in life. Keep your head up and keep shining.

It sounds like you have a good plan for your and your child’s future! No shame in going home and starting again. Do what’s best for YOU and your baby. I’ve seen adults in their 40s and 50s start over and wish they would’ve done it sooner. You’ll look on this one day and feel so good about how far you’ve come. You got this! Good luck!

You are not too old to start over! And don’t feel bad for the decisions you have made this far just try your best to learn from them! I too stayed in bad relationships longer than I should have. If you have the support of your family then you are in a great position to start over! I started over twice once at 22 and again at 26 I and couldn’t have done it without the help of my mom. Work hard, save money, keep yourself on a budget, and make smart financial decisions. At 22 my cheating ex stole all my stuff with the exception of a couple bags of clothes and my credit cards were in collections. I worked hard made smart moves and by 30 I bought a condo all by myself. It wasn’t perfect, wasn’t in the best neighborhood, but a great investment, 3yrs later I sold that condo the value went up significantly and I made enough money to put a down payment on a 3bd 2bath house a little further out of town something my parents always dreamed of doing but they were never able to buy a house. I also had enough leftover to payoff my car and furnish the house. This was a huge accomplishment for me and at 23 I never thought I would be where I am today now I’m 35 married with a baby and life is good. Whatever your dreams are you have the power to make them happen and you don’t need to follow anyone’s timeline but your own! Good luck!

Girl. I had to start my life over for the third time when I was 30. It’s never to late to change your life. Do not put up with your baby’s father’s behavior. You deserve a good life just like anyone else. Co-parentng relationships are very common between parents who don’t want to be together. Please don’t do what my parents did by stay together while one of them was miserable. I grew up miserable because of them. Your kids don’t deserve that.

Go back to school, Lady! I went back and “started over” at 32. Worked hard to become a Registered Nurse with 2 babies and the support of my parents. Lots of sacrificing for all involved (including the kids)… BUT… WORTH EVERY BIT OF SACRIFICE!!! Don’t listen to the naysayers… THEY are every where. DO THIS NOW. Your brain is still young and like a sponge!! You and your babies have a much better life ahead!! Good luck to you, MAMA!!!

It’s never to late!!!

You are making a good decision now ! By realizing the father won’t change after lying before. Persue your future so you will have a stable home for you & your child .
I have been through a similar situation & did not make a good decision !

I started over at 25yrs old… had been with my ex for 7yrs… he cheated,lied even had a child with someone. I left, moved back with my dad. Went to school where I met my now husband… started my own business and now I’ve been married 8yrs (together 11yrs) have 3 beautiful children a home we purchased outright and a good business. I am so happy I started over! My husband has never strayed and always shows me how much I’m loved and wanted. You are ready for a change you will be so happy you did

Leave as soon as you can. Going back home is better than teaching your little girl to accept being cheated on, which is what she’s learning by you staying. BTDT

23? Girl you are still a baby!! Do not waste your time in toxic relationships with a little boy who does not know your worth!! Go get your degree. Thrive!! You have your whole life ahead of you!!

I did it at 29 with an 11 year old.:woman_shrugging:t3:Should have done it 11 years earlier but I was scared and embarrassed. Don’t let your fears overcome you.

I started over at age 52 and it was the best decision I have ever made. I learned that I was stronger than I thought and rediscovered myself. You deserve better than this person and you will find a strength and happiness that you never knew was possible! You go girl!

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is 23 to old to start over?

You are never too old to start over. Start over and grow and build a better life for yourself and your child.


U are 23 u are still very young


its never to late to go to school


Absolutely never too old to start over and make a better life for YOURSELF, as well as your child. I was 28 when I started over after a 10 year relationship and 2 kids. You got this momma. :heart:


Yes start over. Don’t stay for your kid cause she needs a loving home where both parents love each other. Love yourself first and go for it!

I am 28 and starting over with a 7 and 5 year old. Never too old.