Is it normal for a dad to not help with the kids after getting off work?

is it normal and okay for a father to not help with the kids because he works and you “Just stay at home all day”?

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Nope! Part of why i left my husband.

It varies individually

I’d be kicking some ass, honestly. If he doesn’t want to be a father, he can leave. No point in being a married single parent.

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I’m alittle old school on this subject. If you work at home (stay at home mom), you are the main caregiver for the children, you also maintain a clean home, and cook meals for the family as it is your job. This does not mean dad comes home & sits in front of a t.v. but he fixes broken things & maintains the vehicles. He helps with the children while you’re cooking supper or running to the grocery store. Dad provides for the family finances, fixes broken things around the home, helps with children when needed. Having one parent at home & one working outside the home is an exchange of chores. When your children nap take a break & relax. Get them into a routine that fits you, it’s easier that way. Most dads now days will help with cooking, give kids a bath, play with them and/or put them to bed. It is not normal for a dad to ignore his children & not be active with them all together.

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Depends! What kind job your husband perform? I think in a marriage we need to be more understandable in the husband and wife necessities. How about once your husband came from work let him take a bath , eat something get like 30 minutes break. And than ask him if he can help you with the kids. If you are the kind wife that have dinner ready when you’re husband arrive from work. Believe he’s going made an effort to help you with the kids.

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It varies individually

I’d be kicking some ass, honestly. If he doesn’t want to be a father, he can leave. No point in being a married single parent.

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I’m alittle old school on this subject. If you work at home (stay at home mom), you are the main caregiver for the children, you also maintain a clean home, and cook meals for the family as it is your job. This does not mean dad comes home & sits in front of a t.v. but he fixes broken things & maintains the vehicles. He helps with the children while you’re cooking supper or running to the grocery store. Dad provides for the family finances, fixes broken things around the home, helps with children when needed. Having one parent at home & one working outside the home is an exchange of chores. When your children nap take a break & relax. Get them into a routine that fits you, it’s easier that way. Most dads now days will help with cooking, give kids a bath, play with them and/or put them to bed. It is not normal for a dad to ignore his children & not be active with them all together.

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Depends! What kind job your husband perform? I think in a marriage we need to be more understandable in the husband and wife necessities. How about once your husband came from work let him take a bath , eat something get like 30 minutes break. And than ask him if he can help you with the kids. If you are the kind wife that have dinner ready when you’re husband arrive from work. Believe he’s going made an effort to help you with the kids.

This seems to be a very common problem dad comes home tired should he help u with the children?? Question is how old r the children too. You have to sit down and compromise. Just what do u want your husband to do and is he ok with it. Let him relax have a drink have some supper, go from there. At least put them to bed read them a short book should be fair enough good luck

I hear this a LOT yea it seems to be normal, but it doesn’t have to be. Gotta communicate with them in order to make the change. When I stayed home and my kids were young I never asked him to do anything on the days he worked, but on his days off I would take a few hours of “away from kid” time. Once they started school it was different. Because they were gone all day.

Those issues should be planned out before you get married and have children. You chose not to have this discussion with your husband so you suffer the consequences of him being an asshole.

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No!!! Absolutely not. I wont let that shit slide. My son is only 2 months old but the first month or so he really was trying to get away with not doing much when he got home from work. He thought i had it easy because i was home with him all day… Well when he started staying home with the baby when i went back to work, i think he realized it really is a hard job… So now he has been helping out when he gets home, thank god. You need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him… Mamas need help! And a little alone time as well… i know some alone time and uninterrupted sleep is a must for me at least one or two times a week.