Is it normal to lose your sex drive after you have kids?

Have any of yall experienced a decline in your sex drive since having your kid? I have two and didn’t experience it after my first. But after I had my daughter, it’s like I hardly want my husband to even touch me. It started when I was pregnant. It was okay for like three months after I had my daughter, but then it’s like when he touches me, I freak out—full-on anxiety. I love my husband, and I know it hurts him when it happens. He tells me it’s fine, but I can see it in his eyes. And on the few times, I let it slide through my anxiety, its painful and like I’m really dry. I’m at a total loss. :frowning:

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Talk to your doctor it could be a lack of estrogen

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Yes it is common but you still need to talk to your dr.

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Talk to your ob, hormones are probably off which is normal and use lube, there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing that.

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Talk to your doctor. This happens often with women who have had babies.

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You should be talking to your primary care doctor

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Use lube and maybe itll get better. Maybe youre stressed.

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Definitely call your obgyn.

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Definitely talk to your doctor

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You need to visit a sex shop. Go get some lube and a clit stimulater to use while having sex. It’s the best invention ever. Makes sure you get to achieve orgasm also. Some men feel like they are not enough if a woman brings that into play, but once its shows him you will be more willing and more often he should be okay with it. For some reason after having kids I have experienced difficulty having alot of pleasure during intercourse for awhile. But with the clit stimulater it makes a world of difference and we haven’t had issues with me having low libido since. Four kids now plenty of experience lol.

Get something done quick if not he’ll go somewhere else n you can not blame him.

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Trust me see your doctor…it happens

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I had this when I had the iud once I got it removed I was fine talk to ur dr for sure

I thought I lost my sex drive after my second it didn’t hurt I was just never in the mood… turns out it was just the baby daddy in my situation I wasn’t attracted to him anymore I don’t have that problem anymore :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Your also probably touched out from caring for your baby, all the skin on skin and affection you have with baby can be overwhelming

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Sounds like post partum anxiety . along with losing your sex drive also? No matter what alway consult with your doc

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Oh God help us all Because a Man can’t live without sex… Ugh these comments…

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Go see your doctor! And dont blame yourself! A lot of times its just your hormones. And for goodness sakes dont listen to these women saying that you should fix it so he doesnt get sex from somewhere else.

On a side note: What kind of marriages do you all have anyways?!?!!!

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Talk to your OB and talk to a counselor. I had the same thing happen, mine ended up being multiple things part of which was from being molested as a child and for what ever reason after having kids all that started showing in my sex life. I got on medication and started counseling. It really helps to be able to talk to someone who is not emotionally invested in your life and can give you unbiased opinions. Good luck!

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I have that same problem :sweat: Idk what to do