Is it normal to lose your sex drive after you have kids?

Definitely talk to your doctor

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You need to visit a sex shop. Go get some lube and a clit stimulater to use while having sex. It’s the best invention ever. Makes sure you get to achieve orgasm also. Some men feel like they are not enough if a woman brings that into play, but once its shows him you will be more willing and more often he should be okay with it. For some reason after having kids I have experienced difficulty having alot of pleasure during intercourse for awhile. But with the clit stimulater it makes a world of difference and we haven’t had issues with me having low libido since. Four kids now plenty of experience lol.

Get something done quick if not he’ll go somewhere else n you can not blame him.

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Trust me see your doctor…it happens

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I had this when I had the iud once I got it removed I was fine talk to ur dr for sure

I thought I lost my sex drive after my second it didn’t hurt I was just never in the mood… turns out it was just the baby daddy in my situation I wasn’t attracted to him anymore I don’t have that problem anymore :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Your also probably touched out from caring for your baby, all the skin on skin and affection you have with baby can be overwhelming

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Sounds like post partum anxiety . along with losing your sex drive also? No matter what alway consult with your doc

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Oh God help us all Because a Man can’t live without sex… Ugh these comments…

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Go see your doctor! And dont blame yourself! A lot of times its just your hormones. And for goodness sakes dont listen to these women saying that you should fix it so he doesnt get sex from somewhere else.

On a side note: What kind of marriages do you all have anyways?!?!!!

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Talk to your OB and talk to a counselor. I had the same thing happen, mine ended up being multiple things part of which was from being molested as a child and for what ever reason after having kids all that started showing in my sex life. I got on medication and started counseling. It really helps to be able to talk to someone who is not emotionally invested in your life and can give you unbiased opinions. Good luck!

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I have that same problem :sweat: Idk what to do

Maybe you need a little you time. Get in touch with your sexy self again. Go buy some water based lube if it helps. And if you get anxiety maybe you can try lavender oil, that helps me when I get anxiety. Behind the ears, on the nape of the back of ur neck, and inside the wrists. The smell is calming. You should call your doctor though, doesn’t hurt to make sure you’re okay. You could be dealing with post partum.

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If you’re on an antidepressant (mainly SSRIs) that can cause a low sex drive. It sucks. I’ve been having this issue and my husband understands. I tried stopping my meds and had to get back on them because I was so anxious all the time.

Mine was the complete opposite. I wanted more sex while I was breastfeeding. Once I stopped, I lost the sex drive again. I realized that it was due to a hormone imbalance. Talk to you doctor. After I give birth to my second and stop breast feeding, I’m getting my hormones checked. They say it’s best to wait a year after birth and/or breastfeeding to get them checked.

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I was like that.
My problem was that I really didn’t want another kid at all and that underlying thought was on my mind a lot. I was terrified at the thought of getting pregnant. Some days I was better at ignoring my mind and being in the moment… Just have patience, you’ll be ready when you’re ready. Don’t push yourself.
The only thing that truly cured my sex drive was getting my tubes tied just before turning 25.

Don’t listen to people telling you to get over it or he’ll go somewhere else. If he goes somewhere else without permission, he can get out and stay out. Marriage is a commitment through thick and thin. If he won’t be there for you then get him out.

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I have the same problem. Had my son in Feb 2019 and we haven’t had sex since September 2018. Part of me feels bad for not giving it to him but the other part could care less. I just don’t want it.
He says a few things to me once in awhile but overall he fully understands. The delivery was traumatic for me and I was in pain for 10 weeks…couldn’t even pee without crying.
I talked to my OB but he didn’t seem to think it was a major problem. My hormones are normal. I should talk to my family doctor…but don’t really care enough too either :woman_shrugging:t2::woman_shrugging:t2:

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Yup lost it both times I had my kids and I still don’t have 4 month pp. We will still do it just to please him but it is no longer enjoyable

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Make a lot of time to connect with your husband without sex, massage, cuddling, sexual things you can do for him without pain/anxiety for you, maybe you can try giving yourself some stimulation alone and seeing if the problem is your hormones or just anxiety/stress from Situation…definitely try lubricant, check with a doctor, try natural remedies for female arousal/hormone balance…try to relax and not overbuild the issue in your head and make it worse…if you drink have a glass of wine or two and see if that helps get over hump! Good luck :purple_heart:

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Talk to your Dr sis it could be ppd. Unfortunately sometimes this happens but through the right channels it can be figured out. Dont feel bad about it, new mama life is rough, even if it is your second baby, its still new.

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