Is it weird to not have a sex drive anymore?

My fiancé and I have been together for almost seven years- 24 & 25 years old. We have two kiddos together as well. I’ve never really been a sexual person. When we first started having sex, it would be like every day. Now it’s MAYBE once a month. And that’s because of me. I’m just never in the mood. Or when we have sex, I’m just ready for it to be over. I’m in love with him, and know I want forever, but why do I feel like this? It feels almost like a chore. I work full time & have two kids (3& almost 2), but I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember. And it’s nothing he’s doing either. Any advice? I feel bad for him cause I know it’s a want for him, but I swear I could go the rest of my life without having sex.

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Same! I need answer as well

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I started antidepressants and got my sex drive BACK. Which it’s usually the opposite.
And we got much dirtier :upside_down_face: made all the difference

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Goi get your hormones checked out. You could just be off.

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I’m the same damn way. Were both about to be 21 and have a 14 month old and I’m 26 weeks. I’ve been this way since before my first pregnancy

Talk to your dr… its not normal to have no sex drive at all

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I deal with this problem. I also feel bad for my husband. Someone told me have my thyroid checked cause if you have a thyroid issue, it can cause you to have little to no sex drive at all.

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I wish i had advice but im literally in the same boat except ive been with mine 20 yrs with 2 kids. But i dont want it, dont care for it and he can practically beg me and im like :unamused:

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Tried Vitex* or other similar ones? All natural and designed to help with PMS etc but heightens your sex drive

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Try something that will boost your sex drive there are vitamins and things you can try!

Sexuality is a spectrum- could be a lot of things but babe…you might be asexual. It’s not wierd, it’s more common than you think.

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Are you on birth control by chance? I have this issue EVERY time im on birth control.

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Woman Viagra lol thank me later and hate me later lol :grin:

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I agree with have your hormone levels checked.

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If he ain’t getting it from you, he’s gonna find somewhere else to get it.

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I am in the same boat! We have been together 5 years married 3 have a 1 yr old and I am pregnant working full-time and exhausted! After our first was born I had zero sex drive and it felt like a chore to me also. I wish I could figure out what is going on cause it has caused issues with us and I feel terrible that I am this way.

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Maybe your just exhausted…full time n going home and parenting is a full time job…who wants sex …I just wanted to sleep when my kids were that age

Take Ashwaganda and wear ylang ylang essential oil as perfume

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Talk to your doctor you are to young to be experiencing this issue.

I’m 28 and I’ve been like that for years also. I was on an antidepressant for about 4 years and it helped with my sex drive but I’ve been off of it for a year now and have no desire to. Its nothing he is doing its just me. Talk to your doctor. Birth control will make me like that also.

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